how can i stand up to an abusive husband?

Answer 1

Divorce his ***! You don't have to put up with that. Are there any battered women's shelters in your area? The important thing too, are there children involved, and witness the abuse? Get out, before he really hurts you,...men like that rarely change, and if there are children in the picture, is this the kind of example you want them to see? Real men don't have to be abusive, in order to feel like a real man. Those kinds of abusive men, are cowards,.....
There are all kinds of help out there, you just have to make the decision to leave. Good luck,....

Answer 2

It's really hard because a lot of fear is invovled (he may threaten to hurt you if you leave) but you have to do it, just pack your bags and get the Hell out. Maybe look for a women's shelter that you can go to so you can feel safe.

He won't change without professional help so don't wait around hoping it'll happen one day. You can't "stand up to him". One thing you NEVER do is talk back to an abuser. He will only see it as a challenge and will hurt you badly to make sure you never "stand up" to him again. You have to remove yourself from the situation.

Answer 3

I agree with other responders here, that if your husband has displayed emotional, mental and/or physical abuse that you should not stay to fight the fight. Fighting will get you nowhere, it will only want to make him control you all the more. Think of a life where you can be safe and don't have to worry about someone abusing you. Of course if you have children involved it will be harder. You need to have a plan. I suggest you make some calls to a domestic violence hotline, they can help you and refer you to more help. Others have been in your shoes and have rebuilt their lives. Good luck.

Check this out-
http://www.dvsas.org/Voices%20of%20Survivors/becky's_story.htm

Answer 4

It takes alot of inner strangth to do so. Basically its alot of mind games and for the most part that's what abusive husbands do. I know its hard to stand up to him, I've been there. The time will come when you decide to take control of the situation.

Answer 5

If you live in an abusive relationship, GET OUT NOW. I know, easier said than done.I"m sure you love him and probably have children in the home. I am an advocate for Hands of Hope in my community. Call your local police police dept. and ask if there is such a group in your area.
abusiveness can lead to hospitalization and in some cases even death. Please dont wait to have this happen to you.

Answer 6

Been there myself. The BEST thing I did was to leave him, I took my three kids & moved out, grant you it was'ent easy but after a while everything turned out fine, even my kids were better off this way, constant fighting & abuse isent something your kids have to grow up with either. Now we feel like a million bucks, & life's beautiful !

Answer 7

As a survivor, I can tell you that unless you are absolutely tired, you aren't going anywhere. You gonna make excuses for his disgusting behavior and hide what everyone knows but you're in denial of. Find someone who is supportive and will help you when you're ready to leave. I hope you don't have kids; if you do, you need to get tired really quick for their sake if not your own. God bless you in your situation...

Answer 8

That's wierd...where's your daddy? If my husband ever got rude or even dared raise a finger to me, I'd tell my daddy and he'd step him up straight how to treat his little girl. Then my dad would tell my big brother what when on (cause you have to talk about something drinkin beers fixin' cars) and my brother would take him out for a beer and tell him how to treat his little sis.

Answer 9

Greyhound

Answer 10

Unfortunately, in my experience, standing up to him isn't going to change him. I do hope that you leave or make him leave, because it's unjust and bad for your mental health for you to go on just letting him treat you that way.