how do i convince my girl friend thats she's not ugly and she's not fat i keep telling her but she won't believe me
2006-08-26 08:24:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Ok, so I've had this problem myself, especially when I was younger. First of all, your gf needs to mature a little bit and realize that she is indeed beautiful. As far as quick fixes, my husband used to write a list (of 100 things or so) that he loves about me, from the way I look at him, my smile, my heart, the way I love to have fun, etc. Make her something like that, and emphasize that she is beautiful, and that you love her the way she is.
2006-08-26 08:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by spear504 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she has low self esteem, it doesn't matter how many times you tell her she's pretty, she has to realize it for herself, hopefully some day she will. It has nothing to do with people telling how beautiful you are, it's about being comfortable in your own skin.
*Personally, I don't like it when my boyfriend tries to make me feel better by saying generic things like "Oh your so pretty, no I don't think you're fat"... You have to point out specific things you find attractive about her, like "You hair looks good today" or " Your @ss looks hot in those pants" - it feels more sincere that way. Also, don't just compliment her looks, compliment her personality and brain too, that'll help her build self-esteem overall.
2006-08-26 15:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may take some time, but the best way would be to show her that you think she is beautiful and special. Go out of your way to show her that you appreciate her, and compliment her before she mentions anything about her insecurities. It may not be what you say, but what you do that enables her to feel secure. You may also want to ask her (and try and help her discover) the root cause of her insecurity, and work through that with her.
2006-08-26 15:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very insecure. She probably will never believe you if she thinks she is fat and ugly. She's suffering from low self-esteem.
2006-08-26 15:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's just going through a stage in her life in which all girls go through.
tell her that you don't want to be the guy who needs to remind her how beautiful she is, because it breaks your heart to hear her hate her own body image.
2006-08-26 17:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Euphony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes heard it too much and she wants u to comfort her by telling her over and over and over again. just tell her shes gorgouse na d treat her like shes a queen. she'll eat it up
2006-08-26 16:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by g g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help if you are very specific.
I love your eyes and tell her why or tell her what you love about her complexion.
Tell her what you love about her body and why.
Don't overdo it. If you are sincere, she will believe you.
2006-08-26 15:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by toota956 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can't is thats how she feel about herself you can't change it. she will eventually grow out of it. until then just keep telling her she is beautiful and that you love her. she will eventually see. good luck. : )
2006-08-26 15:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by spicysaucylatina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling her..
maybe she'll belive you eventually..
good luck.
2006-08-26 15:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by .: The Girl Next Door:. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don tell her any more... she is just trying to get have all of the attention..!!
2006-08-26 15:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋