I am dating a very sweet, respectful guy. We just celeberated our one month anniversary. B/c it's only been one month, I decided to make him a small, home made (personalized) card, as a nice gesture for the occassion. He did not give me a card or anything but did take me out and pay for a nice dinner. I do not mind NOT getting anything from him--as he did pay for dinner and it's only been one month. However, some of my friends are telling me that he should have given me something (i.e. a card or gift or flowers etc). I would think that for more important milestones, my guy would actually do something, therefore I do not feel the need to make a scene over a month anniversary. Any thoughts on this scenario? Are my friends being overly critical or should I say something to my guy?
2006-08-26 08:24:19 · 4 answers · asked by satiindoll_101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd say your friends all sound like border-line personalities and I would listen very carefully to all there expectations, ridicule, and controlling that way your new boyfriend will dump you and you'll be back in the market looking for someone new in no time at all and then all your so-called friends will disappear!!!
2006-08-26 08:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by dn_side_umop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, as a guy, i do not comprehend this difficulty about one month anniversaries. I advise, i'll comprehend a 365 days, yet month-to-month anniversaries are in basic terms too a lot. It in basic terms feels like putting forward "Phew, we made it to a month". i ought to do something amazingly useful for her, on the first anniversary, and in the intervening time provide her flora, and random playing cards to entice close that she's on my concepts. Now that suggested, perhaps he's a diverse kinda guy. there are one of those transformations human beings, actual :) So, confer with him... casually raise the verbal replace of anniversaries and ask him the way you ought to devise to celebrate your anniversary. it will have the capacity to open up and communicate more beneficial on whats occurring interior... this isn't something serious in any respect. do not scare the undesirable guy away :)
2016-11-27 23:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by tornese 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to him...just continue to make him cards and do sweet little things like that for him. It's still early on, and he may have cute stuff planned for later on in your relationship!
What would your friends have you tell him anyway, "hey, you need to buy me a card?" You cant demand thoughtfulness. I have learned this. You can set an example through your actions and hopefully he will follow your example.
I think your friends in this case are being overly critical, which makes sense because they love you!
2006-08-26 08:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want him to celebrate things like this you really need to tell him ahead of time in a nice, nonthreatening way. please don't make him read your mind to find out things that are important to you
2006-08-26 08:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋