When I serve dinner on the table, I call out to my son who is normally busy on computer or watching TV in his room. My husband says, he is old enough, and I shouldnt be telling him to come down and eat. How would my son know, dinner is on the table? He says I am babying him.
He is 25 yrs old and lives with us. He was on his own when my husband wanted him to move back with us for the reason, I shouldnt be alone as he(my hubby) is always travelling out of the country. Is it wrong if I ask him to come, so that all finish eating one time?
2006-08-26 08:18:07 · 35 answers · asked by NchantingPrincess 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Honestly, everyone of you are here, making it difficult for me to choose an answer. Lets leave it for vote.
2006-08-27 08:33:00 · update #1
Honestly, everyone of you here are right, making it difficult for me to choose an answer. Lets leave it for vote.
2006-08-27 08:33:51 · update #2
You're not wrong at all. It isn't even like your demanding he come down - just informing him that food is ready.
If he doesn't want to come down then, he doesn't have to - he can always make his own food later.
It would be nice if everyone ate together - it helps strengthen the family bond.
2006-08-26 08:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by lepninja 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is your son, not a dog and if he was a dog you probably would call him to come get fed... so why not let your son know when dinner is ready ... If he don't come when you call him , well let him deal with the food being cold... ..you will not feel guilty if he doesn't show up when you tell him at first....
Tell your husband , he needs to grow up
2006-08-31 13:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right -- how would he know? Unless you always serve dinner punctually to the second. Maybe your husband doesn't want to see his son at the table -- does he have bad manners? You could always IM your son from the kitchen computer, so your husband wouldn't know you were calling him.
2006-09-03 07:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are his mom and getting him to motivate his booty is just part of what you been doing for 25 years.
I do not know if your husband wants him there to protect you or spy on you but a good cell phone can take care of you if you need help.
I think you're doing the right thing by hounding your son.
Boys are lazy and never think before acting and no one knows your son like you do not even his father.
I'd grab my pattle and beat the both of them if they have problems about you loving him enough to tell him food is ready for him.
I'd pull a Joan Crawford on their butts if I were you!
2006-09-03 05:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by J.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is right because how can you be busy getting ready with and cooking supper and your son be oblivious to the fact that dinner is almost ready. If someone was cooking for me I would be first one there! You can call me anything but not late for dinner !
2006-09-02 13:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by chemicalCourtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not !!! You're still his mother & he'll remain ur son even after 50 years.And what's wrong in calling out to him to have dinner. Atleast u're making a good effort by making everyone in ur family sit & eat together for a while. As ur husband says.......if u don't call him,how'll he get to know.This means that u dooooo care for ur son and are possibly doing the things that way. So, no harm in calling him out....if u don't.......someday he might feel bad. I say u're right !!
2006-08-26 08:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by itz.my.way 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God......he is 25 years old? He is old enough to smell isn't he?? If he is hungry and wants to eat he will... better yet let him go and be a man on his own and get a dog for a companion or protection. He should be out enjoying single life all he can before the real world settles in!!
2006-08-26 08:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by fxbeto 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he has resumed a fair share of the household expenses. If not, it is time that he does.
If he doesn't want to come down for dinner, let him cook his own food, and wash his own dishes. Otherwise he should be polite enough to eat with you.
2006-08-26 08:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i mean he your hubby did want him to move back in--- maybe you can set a certain time and tell him this is when dinner will be ready everyday so come at that time --- that's a 50/50,,,
2006-08-26 08:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mousey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cmon man...
Whatever happens... no matter how many years your son turns 25 or 55! he will always remain your son and you will always remain the elder one...
so you have full authority to set the rules and regulations no matter what happens...
dont think so seriously about this matter... relax and if you want talk over the matter with your husband and son!!
**All the best**
2006-08-26 08:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋