My boyfriend is divorce and they have a 3 year old girl. Every weekend when his ex-wife dropp her off at my boyfriends she always get in the house for like 15 minutes (brushing her little girl's hair, or just talking to my boyfriend) Im wondering if that is normal? How is it work? I remember my divorced parents sharing me on the weekends but my dad would go to my mom's car to get me quick, thats it. What do you think?
2006-08-26 08:09:15 · 4 answers · asked by Pebels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the fact that they can be civil with each other is very good. my husband and i divorced but i still maintain a good relationship with him, and my new husband does not mind. when he comes to pick up the kids or drop them off , my ex always comes in for a few minutes.... nothing wrong with that, maybe you are just insecure, get over it
2006-08-26 08:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by raffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuantely you are an outsider right now. Talk to your boyfriend about your concerns. I would never do that if my ex had his girlfriend over. I think it is inappropriate and a bit disrespectful to you. I mean can't she brush her daughters hair before dropping her off? I think there is something deeper going on here. Just see what his reaction is when you discuss it with him. It is hard when you are dealing with the mother of your child and your girlfriend on one side. Always remember to keep the child's best interest as number one ok? Don't get in between private issues. You are not the wife so you are limited as to what you can do and it isn't your home or your daughter. Good Luck
2006-08-26 08:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know me and my ex have been divorced for 9 years now. And when we were married we fought all the time in front of our son. We finally grew up and we have a really good relationship. He is one of my best friend's now And my husband now hates it because we get alone and can talk about anything.And our son See's that hey my mom and dad are not married but he knows we love him. Most people can not understand that it is so much better on the children if parents get along. But today society thinks we must hate and fight and destroy the child and his security. Some say it is false hope for the child. Not if you are honest with them and say hey we love you and we get along to raise you the best we can even though we are divorced. It works it took me and my ex years to get to this point and now because we are here my husband says i must stop talking to him or else. We are very good friend's nothing more. But we do it for our Child and we grew up. I think all divorced people should get along if they have kids involved.
2006-08-26 09:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by tr2thhrt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 ex with whom I am great Friends with. I am very happy that he has a good woman to share his life with. She understands that we will Never get together again and so is not threatened by our friendship. If you are secure in your relationship then their being friendly can be irritating for you, but is very good for the 3 year old. Try to find patience and understanding.
2006-08-26 08:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ila Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋