Someone close to me is quite manipulative. For so long I was a doormat b/c I lacked confidence in myself. Only recently have I become aware of the techniques my mate uses to manipulate people to get his way. He'll dismiss my concerns when I bring them up, he'll punish the relationship by not inviting me out when I disagree with him, he'll make decisions that affect us both w/o discussing with me first and then later bring it up and insinuate I had agreed to the decision. He'll blatantly try rewriting history during disagreements as a way to manipulate me.
Every issue becomes a big issue b/c his lying about small issues makes me feel disrespected. I try to stand up for myself on all issues, but there are some issues that just don't seem worth the effort and so I just give in. What should my next step be? Some psych book I read said it's better to maintain relationships and grow myself, but not end relationships completely.
2006-08-26 07:55:31 · 9 answers · asked by mistergenderbender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd suggest turning the light out. Sounds very much to me like your in an emotionally abusive relatioship and nobody deserves that. If you cannot talk openly and honestly and feel that your being heard then move on. Cut your losses before things become too crazy.
2006-08-26 08:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IIf a friendship is not making you happy anymore, it's time to cut ties. Recently, my friend andI realized that one of my best friends and his girlfriend, another member of our "group" from college hadn't grown up like us. We have moved on past the childish behaviour and liing to impress. What we once tolerated, we can no longer stomach. So, we have just stopped hanging out with them. When we happen to see them or they call, we are cordial, but nothing more.
Friends don't manipulate or lie. That' not what friendship is about.
2006-08-26 15:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Syd Seven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he claim never to lie? You need to get out now. He is an mentally abusive man who is intelligent enough to manipulate any situation or conversation to go his way. You will have to call block him, because once you start listening to him you start to doubt yourself and get sucked back into his version of reality.
2006-08-26 15:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some psych told you to stay in this realtionship. There is your first problem right there. You already know that person needs to be dismissed and you need to move on.
2006-08-26 15:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 pts
2006-08-26 14:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by beautyprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up until last week I was in same situation as yourself.i have now finished the relationship and feel so much better.The weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
2006-08-26 15:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by lollipop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his bluff, next say honey I think your right, maybe we are really not made for each. Lets just go our different ways.
2006-08-26 15:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by lobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. The next time you stand up to this lier,turn and walk away. He doesn't show any respect for you. command seance,tells you to leave. Do it!
2006-08-26 15:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2006-08-26 15:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋