the child might be his she was letting him see the baby but once she found out we were back 2gather it might not be his how can a marriage survive that
2006-08-26 07:31:10 · 14 answers · asked by heyu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's tough. I don't know if it can. You might want to try counseling. Good Luck
2006-08-26 07:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he's not even sure the baby is his, he needs to demand a paternity test or she can make his life hell, especially considering she's changing her story like that. And if it his, he has rights to his child and she can't keep him from the child.
But whether or not your marriage works depends on whether or not you both truly want it to. If you both put in 100% into fixing the problems and coming together and trying to recapture your love, then it can work. He can still be a good father to his child and be a good husband to you. The other woman will only come between you if you let it.
2006-08-26 14:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can't be saved.. But if he is willing to truly work on it and you both want to have this marriage rekindled, then seek out side help from a marriage counselor. They can be a mediator between you both.
Have a paternity test done on the child to make sure he is the father. If it is his child, then the two of you need to decide what you are going to do..
You need to ask yourself this question, if it is his child, will I be able to treat this child with love and kindness????
If not, then you need to move on.. Because this child is not the blame for his parents mistakes.
Too many times the step parents are too cruel to these children..
Take a step back and reflect on this relationship, make sure you want to put the time and energy into saving it before you invest further... Good Luck...
2006-08-26 14:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Butterflycry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say back 2gather does that mean that at one time you two where separated? if so then think about that for a moment. If you two where going to divorce and he was moving on then what do you have to question?
2006-08-26 16:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Terry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a DNA test done that way he will know for sure,if the child is his or not. You then go from there. How these for Husband feel about the baby?? Does he feel that the baby is his or is he taking her word for it. Worry about the marriage after the test has been done.Good Luck!
2006-08-26 14:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love eachother and want to be together no matter what, you can make it work. You would treat the child as a step child. Of course he would have to pay child support, but just because he got this woman pregnant doesn't mean he loves her or has to be with her. You can keep your marriage, but just be prepared to be a step mother.
2006-08-26 15:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be? Have a paternity test. Don't let her do this to you. Demand he have the test. If it's his baby then get counseling and if that don't work maybe it's not meant to be.If money for help is a problem contact your local mental health board. Some counselors due work for a low payment or free.
2006-08-26 14:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just amazes me how many people have unprotected sex. Absolutely the DUMBEST MOST irresponsible thing that can happen.
If it's his I would dump him. What a terrible dramatic and traumatic experience you will have to go through and you'll never be able to truly get over it. Move on. Anyone this irresponsible is trouble.
2006-08-26 14:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well marrige is hard. ive been married 24 yrs!!
so he cheated on you. iam sorry. that in itsself will be hard to get over.
usually it will happen again. not always.
as for this child, do a paternity test.
if you work your marrige out, u must accept the child if its his.
it means u will see its mother etc from now on till she dies!!!
me, i would divorce him.
it may hurt now, but time will heal the pain.
he is not your soul mate.
i need to leave my old man, but so far he hasnt cheated!!
i do love him, but his mean words are sooo cruel at times.
there will be someone better for you out there. one day he will be a mean old man. trust me.
get out now. i hope u are young.
2006-08-26 14:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by grasshopper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did he have the child with this person? Before or after you married him? and were you okay with it before when he was seeing the child?? You have to ask youlself these questions. and maybe give one last try. make it a good one though
2006-08-26 15:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you work hard and if he also works to save your marriage, you can save the marriage. whether or not he is a daddy will be for dna to decide. it will take dedication to get over the trust issues. good luck.
2006-08-26 14:45:25 · answer #11 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋