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I broke up with my babys father yesterday be cause i was tired of him lying to me and hiding ****. He was calling me from a cell phone number since he started working at his new job. He told me it was his co workers cell phone and that he doesnt want me to call it and he will call me. well i found out that it wasnt his co workers phone that it is a possibility it could be his but i truly think it is a girls cell phone he is cheating on me with. i want to call him so bad and ask him why would he treat the mother of your kids that way . But i know its no point in doing that cause he will just lie any way. What should i do? should i just cut him off completly and only talk to him concerning our kids? I am just asing for advise on what to do to not give in to him so eaily like all the other times i did.

2006-08-26 07:14:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

13 answers

leave him

2006-08-26 07:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by meow 2 · 0 1

Unfortunately, if you have to ask this question, you may already be in trouble, because you are not going to think logically and realistically to do the best thing for you and your child(son/daughter)... Here's the reality: You are with a bad person. He may be the father of your child, but that doesn't give him any sort of credibility. Anyone can have intercourse, it doesn't take someone skilled or special to do so. You have made the mistake already, don't continue doing so. Get full custody and if he wants some visitation, make him show it by fighting for it...this sounds spiteful and mean, but it's not here's why... Your child will eventually look to you as an example and when they see what you've allowed to continue happening, you will be setting them up to go through the same thing again...as much as most people don't like to admit it, children take after their parents typically...not always, but most of the time they follow the pattern. Do you want your son doing this to someone? Or if you have a daughter, do you want her going through it? Think about their future, in doing so find a man who will play a positive role in their life...don't let this guy stick around simply because he has some genetic connection....that doesn't automatically equal a good example and teacher for your children.

2006-08-26 07:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by 1n51ght 2 · 0 0

Apparently you are not married to the child's father and this is ALWAYS bad. That is why people should use birth control. Anyway, dear, he still has legal rights to the child since it is his biological offspring, therefore you can't just cut him off completly. You sound as though you are in a mess of a relationshipe and a mess of a life (mostly it seems, of your own doing). You need far more help than anyone here can give you. And don't have any more babies with him or anyone else! You have enough problems right now!

2006-08-26 07:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Sorry you have to got through this, it is hard to be a single parent..
I gave in for 19 yrs. to the father of my children and I regret it. It is a waste of time to live with and for a man that is not into the family life.
It will be hard to stand for what you want to achieve, that is moving on and not going back to the same old crap.
The only thing I can tell you is to always remember the hell he puts you through when you have the urges to get back together..
Keep that in the front of your mind...
If he is not willing to work on the relationship, then you are right to keep him away.
When he calls or comes over, refuse to talk to him or let him in.. It will be very hard at first and it may take awhile to get over the blues, but it will be for the best, for you and the kids..
Only speak to him when it concerns the children and only the children.. if he tries to talk of other things, hang up..
You may have to put yourself in ***** mode for a while, but it is the strongest way to achieve your goal..
Good Luck, things will get better...

2006-08-26 07:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Butterflycry 2 · 0 0

Well I think that, I am not saying this in a rude way, you and your family or you and your husband should go to counseling to figure out what's up.I have heard of counseling helping all kinds of problems so I am sure that would help! I also think that you should confront him and ask to see the phone and whose it is and meet the phone's owner to get proof. Good Luck!

2006-08-26 07:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by dachshundgirl04 2 · 0 0

Take it from a woman in the same situation just leave. A man will never tell you the truth even when you catch him in the act he will still lie. I think you should call the phone and see who it is. I know it hurts especially when you done went through nine months and had his children and he still treats you like sh**. Please leave us women are worth so much more but we always settle for less.

2006-08-26 07:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0 1

Dear, Its very sad. Please talk to him and tell him about your decision. He should listen to you because you have the right to ask him. And do not ever loose your hope, may be he will realize, what is he doing.
Pray to your God and ask your God to Help you, Give you strength and hope to bear this situation. God Will Listen to You and your Love will come to you.
Best of Luck and Best Wishes for you, from
Saood

2006-08-26 07:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Saood 2 · 0 0

why would a girl hes sleeping with let him use her cell to call another girl?? nd maybe he doesnt want to calling him cuz its not his phone... im not sure he could be cheating but its possible that he is not

2006-08-26 07:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley010 5 · 0 0

Only talk to him about the child, don't waste your time on him. I'm sure you can find someone better than that.

2006-08-26 07:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0 0

Kick this steaming pile of dung to the curb and move on with your life. Loser!!!

2006-08-26 07:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0 0

he sounds like he is full of it. stop calling him for like a week. only talk to him in reference to your kids. I think it's time for you guys to move on. you don't want to be with a jerk, right?

2006-08-26 07:19:16 · answer #11 · answered by Steph 5 · 0 0

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