Reasons u have for doing good and being kind etc?

Question

im getting disillusioned. Some of the reasons i can think of are religious, karma and conscience. Anyone has other unique reasons? I'm not religious and i dun believe in karma (seems so selfish), so i believe tt i hav a conscience. Sometimes i wonder why i'm do all these kind deeds which are not appreciated and get me treated like a fool. And all these obnoxious and ugly ppl who jus make me wanna give up doing them, like wat i'm doing jus benefits them only. Feel like minding my own business now, go into self-isolation and leave them. Jus wanna hear other reasons which may convince me otherwise, and from ppl who may hav had similar experiences...

Answer 1

I am kind because it is who I want to be. I give to others because I can. I want to be a living example for my children. I want the world to be a better place because I was here. Giving to others, with no expectation of appreciation or reward is the best self-esteem builder there is. When you give to others and expect something in return...even if it is only thanks...you diminish your gift. Most of the time I give anon. It is not for show, it is for me and how it makes me feel about myself. I guess that helping others and living my life to the fullest in each breath is my religion.

Answer 2

Well, I do believe in the religious reasons, and in karma, and in having conscience as well. Also, another reason for doing the good and deeds are the moral values, which are the things that make someone a valuable person, and they're more worth than anything else that a person could have. The good deeds are always rewarded, because, believe it or not, God watches everything, and everything we do, and according to your actions you'll be judged by Him and also rewarded. I guess that's an explanation of where karma comes from. But however, doing the good will show others the right ways, and also it can be an example to follow for doing the good and staying in peace. So don't get disappointed, your good acts are very appreciated by God, and they will be worthy and rewarded too, sooner or later, you'll see.

Answer 3

there is a lot of wrong in this world. just watch the news. if i can help make the world a little nicer by one small deed...then why not? maybe that person will reciproicate somewhere down the road and make someone elses day a little nicer... therefore
making our world a little better.

just yesterday i was in a store looking for an item and got lost in my thoughts. i almost backed up into a delivery guy. he was nice enough about the incidence but i apologized to him. he left the store to bring in more items and i met him on his way back in. i held the door open for this man on his second time in. i felt much better about the earlier incidence and hope i turned his day around after the earlier incidence. he seemed surprised at my latter action.

Answer 4

Reason <> good & like <> kind

Value is conditional on the appreciation of the thought and effort that goes into its production. People who trade value for value understand implicitly if not explicitly this conditional nature of value. When a value is given or taken where mutual benefit is not obtained, value ceases to exist for both the giver and taker.
The emptiness you feel in giving to those who do not show due appreciation for what you give is a result of witnessing the disintegration of the value it once had and that no longer exists.

There is only one reason for people to enter into any kind of relationship, for mutual benefit.

Good can and must by its nature always be its own reward. If a good deed does not provide a reward for the doer than it can not be and certainly is not good for anyone. Anyone who chooses to believe that good can only be derived through sacrifice should limit their consumption to what they believe can be gained by offering themselves up upon their own sacrificial alter.

Once you understand the conditional nature of value and that good is good for all involved you will then be duly rewarded for your efforts and your cup will soon be filled up and overflowing.

Answer 5

In the grand scheme of human events, those that are good and possess virtues will turn out to have happier lives. Doing good is it's own reward, yeah it is tough to see people like Bush and Cheney mucking things up for the rest of humanity, and since there is no afterlife, it makes the idea of cosmic justice moot. But for the most part, people respond well to those that are noble.

Answer 6

I do good to encourage and inspire other to also do good in society. I don't expect anything in return, witch makes it that much more sweet when i do. As for those "people", they have a lot to learn, the more ppl do for them the more they appriciate these deeds and will also try to do good. In a nut shell (Good deeds are like a virus going from person to person for survival...when isolated it dies)

Peace Schwa and happiness

Answer 7

what is good, or bad, is a matter or perception.

aside from the obvious against the law stuff, there are a lot of things that may be bad or good, depending on the context and the culture of the people in the situation.

but basically, someone does something good:
1.0 to be socially accepted
2.0 to be rewarded accordingly for the "good" acts
3.0 to avoid punishment for the "bad" acts

and understanding from your additional comments, its quite clear that some of the people you deal with, does not even seem to know what you consider good or bad. to them, it may not be bad at all. we are prisoners to our own perceptions, until we learn to break away from the usual thinking instilled to us by society.

Answer 8

treat others as you want to be treated. Also there are a lot of lemons out there. Keep doing what you're doing and eventually you'll be able to make lemonade. I love lemonade.

I seriously injured my elbow and couldn't work for a while. volunteered to help out at church rummage sale and they wanted me to do all the heavy lifting because I was 'young' and got mad because I couldn't do it. More lemonade anyone?

This probably isn't a good answer for you, but whenever I get down I go do something for myself. I believe its OK to be completely selfish at times.

Answer 9

You only have absolute power over yourself, and you are ultimately responsible for your own happiness.

Everyone can be a jerk, and it's become acceptable in society to be selfish and insulting. But if you let the a-holes change you into one of them, they win. Strength is being the person you want to be DESPITE all the crap around you.

Don't compromise your personal strength, and never let the bastards get you down!

Answer 10

Well, it's kind of hard to explain, but I guess it makes me feel good to help others and sometimes I feel guilty if I don't. Something I heard on some television program years ago sometimes comes to mind. Someone was talking about whether to help people who claim to be destitute when there's no way to know if they are. The person said, "If they are lying, you don't have anything to be ashamed about for helping them. They're the ones who should be ashamed."