Do you think she and your child or kids should go if you are insisting. I look at it like this, it's a special occasion with my relatives, and all couples will be there. I asked my wife if she want go can I bring my 8 month old child who's crawling, because people are asking about him, and she says no. Now she has an issue with 4 people in the family whom are cousins so she takes it out on everybody, and use it as an excuse. But if I tell her that there's a company picnic the next week after she jumped at the chance. And she always jump at the chance to go on vacations that i pay for. what's your opinion, am I wrong?
2006-08-26 07:08:53 · 17 answers · asked by pee pee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no you are not wrong. a family reunion is time for the family to be together, the whole family. And if she doesn't want to be there with you, you should be allowed to take your son. the family would love to see him. I would want my husband to be there with me. and my daughter. it is only right. i love for my family to spend time with my daughter. i want her to remeber that as she grows up, and to know who was there for her. and my self i love to be with the family. mine or my husbands side. ya know?
2006-08-26 07:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. She married you not your family. Say they weren't family just people she can't stand being around, would you still think she was wrong for not wanting to waste a day of her life that she can never get back with them? No, you probably wouldn't mind that at all (at least I hope not). The fact that she goes on vacations (and what is that you pay for it crap...she is YOUR wife, you act like you are doing some stranger a big favor, she probably didn't charge you for carrying and giving birth to YOUR child either!!) and will go to your company picnic with you means that this isnt' about being unwilling to be with you in public, she just doesn't like these people. You wouldn't get me to go and spend my day with people I don't like either. They are your family, if you want to see them then go. As far as the kid she must not trust you to care for the child properly for an entire day and in a chaotic situation like that, children that are starting to crawl are a full time job, especially in a situation like this..and/or she doesn't want the child exposed to people that she considers awful. That is her job as a parent. If there are members of your family that she does like you can see them in a more personal setting and they can meet your child.
2006-08-26 07:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she cared for you she would do this for you. This is something that comes around once a year and a time for making mends with family members, if not she can at least go and not let it be that big of a deal. If she was any kind of woman she would go just to spite the other family members and let them know that she will be there, no matter what everyone thinks of her, as far as the kid yes he should be there if she really doesnt want to go then you take him,who knows maybe you need the father son time.
2006-08-26 07:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you're wrong. It's totally reasonable to expect your wife and kids to accompany you to family functions. That's one of the things families do - is support each other and share each other's lives. If she has an issue with 4 people I'm sure she could be mature enough for a few hours to overlook them and talk to all the other people there. If she refuses to go, take your baby - he has a right to know his relatives.
2006-08-26 07:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we know your wife wears the pants in the family.
We also know she cares more about her feud with your cousins than she does about your child interracting with family and also your happiness. Your wife is straight up self absorbed and selfish. It's all about her. Very sad.
She should suck it up and smile and go and do the mature thing. What she's doing a teenager would do.
It's not about her it's about family. It's about the give and take of a marriage. There are people in my wifes family I dont' like but it's not about me. It's about us as a whole and what's best for everyone. I smile act pleasant and have a great time at our family functions.
It's about her child relating to your family and it's supposed to be about several familys' getting together for a happy time and not your wifes petty battles.
I feel sorry for you. You may be in for a rough marriage.
2006-08-26 07:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should go. Only reason not to is if the cousins have done something REALLY awful to her or are dangerous in some way. Otherwise, couples should always support each other. If she insists on not going, take your child anyway. That baby is their family also.
2006-08-26 07:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Gatorgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, if I had a problem with my wifes family, I would be there for my spouse, rather than staying away for them. I might make it clear that I would go under the condition that if it gets too uncomfortable we could leave. Or at least, I would leave.
2006-08-26 07:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't respect your family then she doesn't respect you. she obviously doesn't care about your feelings about this. you need to re-evaluate the marriage because it only gets worse with these situations. now it's your cousins tomorrow it's your mother and siblings. the list will grow with time. she'll take over and you'll lose control and she'll never have anything to do with your family. I know someone like this and she's a real beee'yat'ch. the excuses are horse-crap.
2006-08-26 07:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she should go, it is a family reunion she is part of your family, so yes she should go. If she absolutely insists on no going you should at least be able to take your child.
2006-08-26 07:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by Justin's Wife of 10 Years!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that if she cared for you she might try this for you. it truly is something that comes around as quickly as a 12 months and a time for making mends with kinfolk, if no longer she would be in a position to a minimum of go and not enable or no longer it truly is that extensive of a deal. If she grew to become into any style of lady she might go just to spite the different kinfolk and enable them to correctly known that she would be in a position to be there, no count what all of us thinks of her, as a procedures because of the fact the baby definite he might desire to be there if she truly doesnt pick to flow then you definately take him,who is conscious according to threat you pick the father son time.
2016-11-05 21:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋