why do men cheat all the dam time?

Answer 1

cause u make him

Answer 2

Because they're raised to see women sexually and competitively, and we're raised to see men as our "one true loves".

My partner and I decided to have an open relationship - built on the belief that loving someone else doesn't take away from our powerful love and trust for each other, because love isn't something that can run out - and a strange thing happened. Although we still date others occasionally, we've actually gotten much more faithful and monogamous! By getting rid of the "What if?" factor when we meet someone interesting or attractive, we ended up really appreciating each other a lot more.

Obviously, this won't work if both partners are not totally 100% into the idea, but there you go...it is possible to prevent cheating. Plus we have an honesty policy in which we tell each other anything that felt like a big deal...which, of course, isn't bad because we're both *allowed* to do things with others anyway.

Anyway, I do find it really disgusting when the ground rules involve "No Cheating" but partners betray each other. I can understand why people might do things with other people...but not why they wouldn't own up to it immediately or warn their partners beforehand.

Someone once told me, "Always be careful with other people's hearts..."

Answer 3

because some women put up with it. Every man has thought about cheating (but not all have done it). It's not teh fault of the women, its because some men have the intelligence of a dog (and will hump anything that comes his way) , or doesn't love her to begin with.
If there are consequences for cheating, and he loves the women the odds are in her favor against him cheating.

Answer 4

Some of the reasons I have heard (and I'm not saying this is right or justifiable) - some men need variety. They want to go out and conquer as much "love" as they possibly can, the other reasons may be things like they're mad, or retribution for a girl cheating on them.

Answer 5

Half of the marriages today do not end in divorce. The ones that end in divorce often have divorced more than once. Most men do not cheat - ever. (Democrats like Clinton, all claim that everybody does it, but Republicans rearly do.)

I think that you're hanging out with the wrong crowds. You should try going to church.

Answer 6

Thursday, August 24, 2006
Infidelity and why men cheat

By: Tati

There is a lot of controversy around cheating and infidelity.
Some people, however, justify it by a list of reasons why their partners fail to fulfill their relationship expectations, and how they are driven to the arms of another person.

Most of these people make the reasons to be very legitimate; such as:
we lost the sparks in the relationship; she doesn’t dress up sexy anymore; sex became way to casual, or just a lack of it; there is no more spontaneity; we argue too much; we are more friends now then lovers we used to be; we do not do sexy things, like dancing and romantic dates; there is no affection and excitement anymore; the relationship is ruined by the everyday stress from you carrier related issues; the relationship is to predictable and boring; the family is



too much in to our business; one person is more dominating, therefore makes the other one more insecure and more likely to be capable to cheat!

However, the list can go on and on, and whatever the motive is, it is still doesn’t justify the fact of deception. All of the above listed reasons are in fact typical relationship issues you may have with your current partner, or anyone new you meet.
I think we all need stimulation in our life, and we have a need to be constantly inspired; otherwise we start feeling trapped and impatient, and feel out of place.

So, men are often overtaken by the act of cheating, experiencing missing excitement in their life, indulging in to a new sexual encounter.
However, the men is not so eager to make any type of changes in his life, by getting involved in a new relationship and dating; that would mean giving up the old and adopting a new relationship “rules”; getting used to another women; and ultimately being transformed to another women’s men.
They are not ready to give up their “comfort zone”, despite all of the problems they may have in their current relationship.
So, an affair is an impulsive and temporary behavior, and it usually is not conclusive!



In spite of that, there are people who are determined to forgive the cheater, and make things work! It will require an utmost measure of human endurance.
The victim in this situation will be more reluctant to trust the partner again, even if she decided to let go.
I strongly believe, that after the act of infidelity in the relationship, where the trust is plundered; the future attempt to save it and make it work is ultimately doomed.

And, no matter how pleasing and agreeable he is, you will always have a concern on the back of your mind; and every time you try to make love, you will have a graphic vision, derived from the affair, of him with other women, the mistress. The victim here will become more vulnerable and sensitive, alert and insecure; anticipate the fidelity problems, which will accelerate the relationship to cease.

For some men the act of cheating is more physiological, then physical.
They may not necessarily look to fulfill their testosterone needs, but to satisfy their emotional dysfunction, to build their self confidence, to proof their manhood, and to boost their self worth.
Every time they commit the act of infidelity, these men block their romantic desires and genuine care for the person they are with, only allowing gratifying their need!

So, either cheating is physical or emotional, it is not justified!
You can not prevent or stop cheater from continuing to commit the adultery!
Sooner or later, he will continue to cheat again, repeating the same pattern.
However, it takes two mature adults to decide how their relationship should be; and it is up to them to make it honest and faithful!

So, if the women in the situation where the men cheats and lies; the solution is to move on with your life, and try to learn from this mistake.
The trust is broken, and you will never be able to repair it!
Another issue will be to learn to trust someone else again! But, this will take time and patience, and it will eventually work out to the best! Just keep and open mind and have a positive attitude!

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Answer 7

Because we let them get away with it. The first time time your man is caught cheating...you should leave him.. That is the way that they learn their lesson. Taking them back is only making the situation worse cuz he will do it again.

Answer 8

cuz some men r too insecure and havta contstantly prove to themselves they "still got it". its the hunter instinct in em.

that and some men are just plain old ******* with no respect for anyone other than their teenypecker.

or it cud b something in the water.

Answer 9

Insecurities, I dont cheat but I do know why some or shall I say most guys do.

Answer 10

its not cheating. you dont own people. do only have one shirt eat only one food. drink only water. no you dont becuse you like other things. have you ahd only one boyfriend. only one friend. so when a guy sleeps with you its forever, yea right. women are beautiful. and awsome, men cant have just one

Answer 11

i cheat at card games, sometimes.
but, i dont cheat on my g/f.
so dont put all of us men in the same class as the cheating men and WOMEN.