2006-08-26 06:41:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do your best to provide him with a sense of security that, no matter what's on his mind, he can share it with you without fear of being judged or criticized. He should feel that he can tell you anything, and you'll love, accept and support him regardless of what it is.
Initiate discussion when he doesn't, be conscious of your tone and phrasing. Sometimes coaxing is appropriate, other times it's better to simply acknowledge that something is difficult to talk about but it needs to be discussed just the same. I have the same problem with my partner, and sometimes you just have to play it by ear depending on the particular issue or situation.
Accept the fact that there will be things he simply will not want to share. It's nothing personal, but you have to respect his space and privacy. Know when to step back and give him some room.
Good luck.
2006-08-26 06:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's often difficult to get guys to open up, no matter who they are with. They are sometimes afraid it diminishes their masculinity if they do so. Don't they understand that we will love and support them anyway? All you can really do, is offer your shoulder to lean on, your ear to bend, and your advice if needed. You cannot force someone to open up, and doing so will most likely cause unnecessary drama and feelings of pressure. Be open and honest, and let him come to you. Also, keep in mind, that even though we may be "best friends" with our partners, there are many things that we would not share with them, and choose to confide in a different "best friend", someone who is not SO close to home. Best of luck.
2006-08-26 07:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to have to be a process. Start opening up about things about yourself to him, and just start telling him how it feels to have someone like him to talk to about it. Let him know that you are there for him to talk about things on his mind. Give him time, he'll come around
2006-08-26 07:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem a few months back... i just sat him downa dn told him he could tell me nething and ill listen and if he neded a shoulder to cry on...im tere...if he ever needed ne1 at ne time day or nite...im there...and since then we havent fought and he tells me everything now and doesnt keep nething bottled up inside...he lets me kno when im wrong about things and we talk things thru without arguing. it can b done and its very easy.
2006-08-26 15:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you really do care, and you know something is bothering him. comfort him by letting him know that you will be there for him no matter what has happened. this will probably make him feel more secure about what is going on.
2006-08-26 06:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by ock1818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and his "troubles", He'll come around when he is ready.
2006-08-26 07:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you care and that you know something is bothering him so he can tell you.
2006-08-26 09:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by LANCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with love & care & trying many times he'll gradually talk. don't give up.
2006-08-26 06:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lazlouz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋