one of my friends was in trouble... in his life, he has no place to stay...he has no life to live and nothing to look forward to in life.. i started hanging out with him... we both have interest in cars... so I started fixing my car over at this place he's renting... I would take him to hang out with my friends.. parties and all... usually we all ride in all our cars to parties.. but one night we decided to leave the cars parked in a secured area and just ride in one car.. cause of the gas and distance.... the next day... my car comes up missing.. I call around the other guys.. or if my family has the car... but nothing comes up.. so I report it stolen... with cops and the insurance... then 2 days later... the insurance co.. wants to talk to my dad about my car accident... which is weird cause I dont have the car... it turns out my friend"borrowed my car" got in an accident... and just so he wouldnt get arrested for it used my insurance/my dad's... now the insurance is investigating me
2006-08-26 06:41:08 · 15 answers · asked by richard b 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
Tell them the truth and file charges against your "friend" for theft.
2006-08-26 06:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some friend huh? If you reported the car stolen and have a police report, then the insurance company should not hold you or your dad liable. The car was stolen. That person who you considered a friend should be arrested for auto theft. he knew what he was doing. I suspect he has done something like this before and has wormed his way out of it. It is not your responsibility to keep your friend out of jail. It is not your responsibility to pay for the accident. Your friend must take responsibility for his behavior and his actions. You would be doing him a great disservice if you allow him to walk away from his responsibility in this. He may say many thing about you that will hurt your feelings but it really is not about you. It is about his irresponsible behavior. I say you and your dad press charges against him. What kind of friend would do that to a friend??!! Even if you had let him use your car it would still be his responsibility to pay for what ever damage he caused in an accident.
2006-08-26 13:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK the best thing is stick to the stolen story Get all of your friends to say the (thief/friend) was with you at a club and dozens of people saw him there.
Tell the insurance investigator it is the Insurance companies fault for printing your name and address on the form you keep in the car. If they had only a number the "thief" would not have known your name.
Also put pressure on the Insurance to fix or replace the car. Guilty people back off. So you need to move in for the kill.
Assuming this was a exercise in ethics. I chose the Red State approach.
Go big Red Go
2006-08-26 14:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by 43 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ugggh. What a crummy feeling that your friend betrayed you. Fortunately, you had already reported the car as stolen, so that should help. Also, the officer or anyone else involved in the accident can probably identify you. The insurance comany deals with this sort of stuff all the time. It will work out, but of course they have to make sure you weren't involved.
2006-08-26 13:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ooh major bummer! What hard life lessons are available from this situation. I'm not sure if you are asking for advice - you say you need help so I guess that's asking. You tried to help out a friend - your friend made some bad decisions and implicated you and now you are in trouble. If this situation is as you described, then, yes, as others have suggested I think you need to tell the truth. Not telling the truth could not only get you in more hot water, it also doesn't really help your friend. When we cover for people's bad decisions, poor choices and downright wrong behavior, we justify it. We give them ammunition to do it again to us and to other people.
It's tough to watch friends mess up their lives - but there are always consequences good and bad. I know that sounds trite and people say it all the time but it's true. It's the way things are. Don't stop being a good friend and caring - at the same time protect yourself from being used and abused. We don't do ourselves or anyone else a favor by allowing them to lie, cheat and steal to our detriment.
Good luck.
2006-08-26 14:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Siri 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't 'politics' in the usual sense.
However, if your 'friend' tried to stick it to you, you don't owe him anything. Tell the Insurance Company your car was stolen, show them the police report. Tell the cops what you think happened if you haven't already.
Again. You owe this rat nothing.
2006-08-26 13:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your initial mistake was befriending that guy. So now you must walk away from it all, advise the police and insurance company that you didn't give him permission to take your car (which is the truth, you said). By the way, did he break in or use your keys, and if he used your keys did you give him your keys?
Find yourself better friends before you too ruin your life forever.
2006-08-26 13:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry what happen but u have to realize that he sounded like trouble from the get go. If u didn't do anything wrong and their is a police report of u reporting the car stolen.Then I don't see any problem,But your insurance will probably go up.Good luck.
2006-08-26 13:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. Pick new friends.
2. Don't press charges if you really don't to but don't back down from reporting it stolen.
3. The accident will cost you through insurance for years. If he does time for the thieft, he caused it.
2006-08-26 13:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by RockHunter 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's no friend and you owe him nothing. I would never put my parents at any risk due to a friend with no concept of right and wrong. Be up front with your parents so that they can address it properly. Don't leave them hanging like that.
2006-08-26 13:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋