how to be more confident with my big size figure?

Question

i'm 5 ft and 7 inch and i weigh 215pounds. i have broad shoulders. almost everyone said i'm not fat but i'm big size. as my family background are from big size figure. i used to swim and i quit due to my work load. i admire people with slim figure that can wear almost anything they want. they always have the attention and that brings down my confident level as people don't really listen to me.. how to bring back my confident and make people like me?? i'm actually a bubbly and cheerful person but behind all the laughter, i always feel small though i'm big..

thank you for all your very supportive and positive answer.. I hear you all.. Everyone who answered my question will guide me through.. Thanks.. You all deserves to be chosen the best..

Answer 1

Your feelings completely reflect.
What you wear, and how you wear it comes out. A person looks better if they take care of themselves, and don't flaunt their body-
especially if you're bigger.
I'm a heavy-set person, and sometimes I don't even wear shorts because of what people might think.
I'm confident in pants because my legs are long. So, I guess I'm more attractive in pants.

Answer 2

Be happy with yourself and your size. If it really makes you uncomfortable, then try to lose some weight. If you aren't bothered that much by your weight, then go out into the world with a smile on your face (which you should be doing no matter what!!). Hold your head high. Walk with confidence. Your demeanor can mean the difference between being noticed by people in a positive or negative way.

Dress as nicely as you can. Make sure your grooming is impeccable.

Be bubbly and cheerful and people will be attracted to those qualities!!

Answer 3

the only way you can be confident is to ask yourself how you feel about your size. what is thought of as too big/to small - is conception. If your size makes you feel bad because of physical discomfort, then lose weight. If you are physically comfortable with yourself - it will come across as attractive. I disagree that Like tend to hang out with Like. If you don't want to BE judged, don't JUDGE. No matter who you are, unless you are comfortable 100% of the time (which is impossible) look at what needs to be improved or changed in you. Many times really good looking people who have no self confidence will surround themselves with people who don't fit the 'mold' so they will appear more good looking. Others thrive on the competition. Try to be THE BEST you, and you will be attractive to all. everyone should also understand that telling a person they are too thin is akin to telling someone they are too fat. Be kind Be patient. If you surround yourself with people who judge you - you need new friends!

Answer 4

My opinion> you need to either hang out with people of similar size or bigger or lose weight. Unfortunatelly, it's the same with good looking people. You will rarely find a good looking person with one who is not as good looking as the opposite sex. Most of the people who create a circle of friends, admit usually similar kind, if you know what I mean. Of course, there are exceptions, but you and only you must know whether it would be worth for you to search for such people, people who are just nice and not too judgmental. The rest will reckon you're big and therefore be judgmental. My advice to you is to try to lose at least some of it. Not only more people will respect you, but you'll also feel better with yourself - feeling more confident and I think that's the goal, isn't it?

Answer 5

Be the beautiful, bubbly and cheerful person that you are. Make yourself look and great for YOU! When a person starts questioning them self, they become their own worst enemy. Be your best RIGHT NOW. Before you concern yourself with how others feel about you, please do what you need to do to love and admire yourself. Big women are stunning when the makeup and clothing are right. Accentuate your features with well applied makeup. Find clothes that look great....pleeeeease do not try to squeeze into clothes that are too small; Don't wear sizes, wear what fits well. Love Yourself..find your confidence and wear it.

Answer 6

I think you should try on clothes that flatter your figure, and then make sure you are confident in them. I'm a little bigger than I should be, And I'm short so I look like a little box! But 'm still confident. So... look at how much people like you, and realize that they don;t see you the way you do. i think you should work on feeling the person you project, and you'll be really happy.

Answer 7

Let me tell you what I just recently observed. I went to the museum with my kids a couple of days ago. We got very lucky that day, because we came just in time to listen to a lady speaker. She talked about the Hawaiian volcanoes. While she was speaking I couldn't help thinking that she was absolutely mesmerizing...."although" she was so big. Her hair wasn't done- her clothing wasn't impressive, her physique was not what you would call attractive....but something about her made me wonder why other big women seem so insecure. This lady impressed me with her knowledge and her ability to relate to everyone in that room....who cares about size? I think when you have something to give (in her case her knowledge)....outer appearance becomes less important....on the other hand...if you have nothing to give....you have to make up for it by looking the part....to appear more confident.
My advice to you is learn to love yourself for who you are...and impress people with your personality and brain. I think you have both.....

Answer 8

I'M A BIG GURL TOO. but you have to find your stlye of clothing,hair and makeup that makes you. you and dont be afraid to try new things. always look your best no matter what you are doing and take pride in what ever you where and keep your head up at all times never look down. we may be large but we are still DIVA'S

Answer 9

Your size, providing its not causing you a health problem, should be the least of your worries, there's so much else that can go wrong with the human body. If others around you have an issue with your size it's their issue not yours. You be happy.

Answer 10

being more over confident would scare me coz half ur size and ur taller than me lmao, so stay the way you are lol, Susie