Does anyone else feel defeated by life?

Question

I had a normal childhood, not extravagant, my parents were legal immigrants and worked very hard for what they now have - if I could say anything about them is that they were very efficient in life. Today, I've worked hard my whole life, I've had a career from an early age where I've worked hard AND contributed to society, now I'm working in another field that helps people - but the bottom line is that I'm 30, still can hardly support myself, have a current opportunity to better myself by taking this particular school course and I'm just over it. I find myself skipping the Saturday classes because I'm simply tired and want a break. With work, a husband I take care of, a tight knit family with whom I like to spend at least a few hours a week with... I know I need to do something to make "it" better. I just seems to feel like I've already worked so hard and still don't have anything to show for it. It's depressing. Seems cumbersome and endless. Feel it too? how did you work through it?

I want to thank you for your comments. All are very insightful and most made me feel like there were people out there that understood where I was coming from. For those few who treated me like I was a whiner, I'd like to say that you did not make me feel sorry for saying what I said, nor sorry for your lives. I've grown up around a lot of pain and disabilities - and that has given me strength, initially, but after awhile, you get tired of living your life purely through guilt.. and I feel liberated by knowing I too have the right to complain and feel bad. So, thanks but no thanks to the msgs that try to make me feel worse. Something my husband taught me is that we are all entitled to our feelings - however absurd they seem to others, but most importantly, in those moments, we are really just seeking to be heard and for some understanding/empathy to keep us moving.

Although many gave kind words, these reasons are why I selected the "best answer" listed below.

Answer 1

I feel you. I cried on reading your message. I swear I cried because this is the story of my life. You shortened it and retold it better than me. What i can say is I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

I totally hear you! I can feel like this sometimes. I'm still behind in some of the things I want in life. I'm not married yet, I'm 27, and my career, no matter how hard I try doesn't quite live up to my expectations. Trying for one thing more than the other seems to hinder my ability to stay balanced. Sometimes it makes me crazy. It sounds like you've got some great things going on though. Although, they say the grass is always greener...

The way i usually work through is through hope. I know what me dreams are... even if they can't fully be explained to anyone else... they keep me going. So what if I don't fit the norm (most "normal" people don't seem all that "normal" to me anyway). I am usually just fine with the way I am going, until someone else knocks me out of wack, with a stupid question, or a rude remark. I just remind myself, that I know what my plan is, that I live for me and God and that everything will be as it should one day!

Hope that helps, hang in there... life's a rollarcoaster, buy some cotton candy and be amused.

Answer 3

Try fighting cancer, and due to side effects not being able to eat any solids for six years ( "eating" by injecting liquids directly into my stomach), talk through my throat and still work 14 to 16 hours a day as I am the sole breadwinner in the family which consists of my widowed mother,my aunt who is a spinster, my wife and two teenaged sons whose demads we all know how they are. I have worked hard all my life and am proud of my achievements and am so even today that with all the handicaps I am still able to work.
Once you imagine this I am sure you wont think of life being depressing or cumberless. How would you feel if you went through all the above and know for a fact how much time you have left to live and try and make enough money to ensure the happiness of my family once I am gone.
I would rather be in your position then in mine - what do you feel?

Answer 4

By thanking God that I have food to eat, a home, my health, my job, and my family. Being Americans, we have become spoiled and bored with lives that other people in the world only dream about. I'm trying to see what the problem is in your life, but can't see it. You're furthering your education and have a tight knit family and your making it, if barely. If you are taking care of your husband, then I would need to know how. Is he just unemployed or unable to work due to a physical issue? He needs to be your main line of support financially, emotionally, and physically.

Answer 5

God i dread feeling like that in years to come, it's already starting to happen now. I'm 17 and in college but i'm already so fed up and i just want to get out of here, just away from everything. Take a break i guess.
Maybe you should save up and go on a well-earned holiday, just get away from everything for a while, go somewhere you've always wanted to and try to get back what you like about being alive, i know i always feel better more refreshed when i go on holiday, good luck...

Answer 6

The world itself is undergoing some really radical changes...even the weather is a sign. It is telling us that materialism as a focus can no longer hold sway. When we hear this it creates confusion, because we have nothing else on which to hang our focus. Spirituality is coming forward. Embrace the spirituality within self for the consciousness raising that is necessary as a global effect. Be a part of the solution, or remain a part of the problem.

Answer 7

i would like to share a little secret wid u....i used to feel the same way about myself esplly after finding ou that most of my early/ yesteryears friends are married n well settled in life n mstill single trying to curve a niche of my career/ dreams.......untill recently..... i feel a bit different now i feel more positive towards myself i don't know wat initiated the change but i feel good about myself of late, i feel like counting my blessings rather than cry for thwe chickens that never hatched......n tell u wot...i have started getting a lot of attention after this change.....maybe a few compliments have started pouring in aswell....so feel good of wot u have n start building up ur confidence fron than on....all the best

Answer 8

MRS NEWLAND
my sympathy ! , but u answered yr own
question ; YOU ARE SIMPLY TIRED, AND
WANT A BREAK . well , TAKE IT !

There are a few points to consider ;
Your HEALTH is worht a Million Dollars
As with the Song ; "How much Baby, do we
really NEED?"
"IT" seems like MATERIAL NEEDS ,
understandable , but useless in the end...

THINK POSITIVE , BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
the REST will take care of itself ....

(Take that Holiday , no matter WHAT)

Congratulations.....

Answer 9

I feel the same way at times - what do I have to show for my life so far - nothing but bills and more bills - it is defeating - but I trust in the Lord that it will get better and so should YOU!@

Answer 10

Shine on you beautiful diamond. It works through you,see?You will.