my close freind thinks she might be pregnant. what should she do?

Question

she is 14 (ya i know... dats young). her boyfriend doesnt want it n her mom wont want it... she doesnt know if she should have abortion, put it up 4 adoption, or keep it. im really againts abortion but thats wat her boyfriend wants.... she really cunfussed. wat should she do?

Answer 1

that is so sad.........if people would just use protection all these poor little babies wouldn't have to suffer............ if the boyfriend doesn't want it then he is never going to be a father to it in any good way..........she should definitly tell her parents and maybe they can find this poor baby a good home...with parents who would love it for the gift is it.................. abortion is not the answer babies are a gift...........................

Answer 2

She is in a tough spot, she needs to tell her parents. Sometimes your parents can be surprising, she may think they will freak out but they love her, they may be understanding. 14 is very young to be a mother but with the help of her family she will be able to do it. If that is not what she wants then her and her family can check into other options but I would suggest that she does not have the abortion, I am 27 and I had one a year ago and it was the worst decision I have ever made. 14 is to young to make that decision, but if she does decide to do that suggest that she do some research on it first, go to internet sites that show exactly what happens when the abortion takes place. Some sited show actual pictures of what the babies look like after wards, if I had seen those I wouldn't have gone through with it. If she truly wants the abortion and she can live with it for the rest of her life then the pictures won't change her mind, if she doesn't then they will.

Answer 3

Well...

That's a sticky situation. Your friend needs to find someone to talk to. Try the school counselor. They are there to help with such matters.

Adoption or keeping the baby is the best options available.

Abortion is not a good option for a 14 year old girl. If she were to have an abortion, she would regret it for the rest of her life.

Try sending an email with the girl's information:
Name (first name only)
City/State
Country
First day of Last Period (LMP)

This person will find information that is really helpful for pregnant teens. She is really nice, was a pregnant teen and has a teen daughter who is pregnant.
[e-mail] ASAP

No one on Yahoo! Answers can really help your friend.

Answer 4

She needs to take a bit of time to think what she wants to do and not let others pressure her. Is there another adult whom she can talk with (a family member, teacher, school counselor, somebody!!)?

Her boyfriend's opinion counts for something, but she's the one who's carrying the fetus and if she feels that adoption is the best option, then she needs some help to investigate that.

First, she needs to find out for certain whether she really is pregnant (have her go to Planned Parenthood for a test). They won't inform her parents (I don't think).

If she doesn't have moral support from her mom (whom you say doesn't want it), then having the baby will be extremely difficult for her...where would she live? how would she support herself and the baby?

Answer 5

She has to do what she can live with. Abortion is like murder you won't feel that way until you have children someday but then you will look at them and regret what you did! (Ispeak from experience I did it) It is 11 years later I have 2 beautiful children I wish I would have given up my baby for adoption it would have been better for everyone involved. It may be harder to do but in the long run it is the better!

Answer 6

There are many families out there that want so badly to have a baby of their own, but can't. Give them the opportunity to have a larger family. Giving a child up for adoption isn't giving them up, it's giving them more.
You are her friend, and what she needs right now is a strong friend. Keep to your values, and make them known to her. If she has an abortion, she will be devastated, and you will feel guilt if you don't let her know that you are against it. Be firm, and you will both feel better about yourselves.

Answer 7

Give it up for adoption

If her boyfriend did not want any babies then he should have kept his pants zipped up. He does not care about your friend or that baby in her stomach.

Killing a life just because people are irresponsible and selfish does not make a situation right.

The right thing to do is have the baby and let a loving family adopt it.

Then your friend NEEDS to stop having sex till she finishes school and get out on her own.

Answer 8

First she needs to find out for sure if she is pregnant or not. If not she needs to learn from this scare and stop having sex at such a young age. She should get rid of her boyfriend, because he is just in it for the sex, of course he wants her to get rid of the baby, he doesn't have to live with that decision the rest of his life. If she is pregnant she is going to have to tell her mom.

Answer 9

well the first thing she needs to do is wait to see if she misses her peiods, i assume they are irregular since she is still young. so if she does miss it then take her to the doctors and get a blood test done, it is the most accurate way to detect a pregnancy rather than a home pregnancy test. if she is you can ask for another blood test to see how many weeks she is along.
anywyas of she is pregnant then her best bet would to get an abortion. for her young age its dangerous for her to give birth. im sort of against abortions too but it would be the best for her, you want the best for your frien dont you?
well also when shes at the doctors she can talk to him about abortions and adoption.

tell her next time to use a condom and dont be a stupid moron!!

shes too young to be having sex anyways..........

Answer 10

Go talk to the caring folk at Planned Parenthood for good counseling.