What has been the average grieving period for the breakup of a commited relationship? I kind of feel bad because I have given up any hope of getting back together and, in my mind, have moved on. I am not angry. I am not actively seeking a new relationship, but I have let go.
2006-08-26 06:02:47 · 16 answers · asked by Hidisar 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I didn't mention she initated the break up one short month ago.
2006-08-26 06:18:14 · update #1
I'm sorry that you are grieving, but I'm glad to see that you accept what has happened, and are moving on. The period of time is different for everyone. We all have our moments of good and bad times, and just when you think you're doing fine, something comes along to remind us of "what might have been", and we're almost back to square one. This is perfectly normal, so allow yourself to cry when you need to, and allow happiness to flow when it does. I tend to grieve in stages. I download the most sappy sad love songs, and force myself to listen and cry. After I've cried as many tears as I can, I add different songs, with a little different sound to them, and gradually change them, until I'm feeling better. Trust me, there is a song for every hurt, occasion, and drama. You'll know when you are doing better, and I honestly think you are on the right path to recovery, especially about not seeking out a new relationship. Allow yourself to fully heal and let go, before you get involved with someone else. Best of luck to you, and don't give up hope.
2006-08-26 07:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One might be able to calculate an average time, but i don't think it would mean much. for instance, some committed relationships are a LOT less committed than others.
Sometimes one person has moved on emotionally before the other person even knows there has been a breakup.
If you aren't angry, if you don't want the other person to feel bad, if you don't want them to miss you and regret the break-up -- you are right, you have moved on. Does it matter if it took you more or less time that the statistically average person, someone who does not actually exist?
2006-08-26 06:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no advice, for each person is different. But, I will warn you to be very careful about forming new relationships at this time...there is a huge danger of transferring the love you had for the former to a new person, and the love will not be real. Stay single until you know what you are doing. Don't rebound and hop into a new relationship..you run the danger of really hurting someone who has no idea that your feelings are not real. Good luck
2006-08-26 06:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That varies from person to person. Some are ready to move on after a month, some wait six months, others immediately jump into another relationship...and a few never find one and are happy stalking their EX the rest of whenever(or until arrested!!)
2006-08-26 06:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then, Sweetie, you should be happy. It is different with everyone. It all depends on your mind, and some people hold on to years for something they will never have again and torture themselves about it. Also, the fact that you feel bad enough about letting go to ask this proves that you're a good person. So, dont beat yourself up for it. Continue with your life and do what you have to do.
2006-08-26 06:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Unmade Promises 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no average grieving period, you just set it yourself. but it has to be realistic, meaning something that you think that you can allow yourself to follow. it can be a couple of months, or 6months, or even a year, just make sure you put a stop to your grieving. it's really important that you move on and learn to live without that person.
2006-08-26 07:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by 2hevi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think there is a predetermined time frame that you must abide by if you have moved on and the other party hasn't it doesn't make you bad it just makes you differ ant from them,besides if you broke up there must be a valid reason dint second guess yourself you will be okay
2006-08-26 06:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 08:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rocio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time period, you just need some time.
Let it burn!
2006-08-26 13:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by The Beast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could b as short as u like if you r a lesbian and wanna get with my best friend... 21/f/wisc
2006-08-26 16:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋