Were seperated & she does not want to talk to me, but she still breaks down on important dates ie: annaversary, birthday, etc. Thats what I hear from friends, but she still wont see or talk to me because she needs more time. She's not seeing anyone else and I'm not either. How long will she stay like this?
2006-08-26 05:58:41 · 34 answers · asked by snafulikeu2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as it stays like this is the answer. But if you work on you, hopefully in time things will work out. If you are still in touch with her friends, they will see the changes in you...and that will get back to her. Just focus on helping yourself change what you need to, and see what happens. And also pray. I highly suggest reading the Bible and good books edifying the Bible.
2006-08-26 06:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong if she refuses to talk with you. Her feelings are either over or she doesn't want to face you and tell you it is over. Once the talking is gone the marriage is over. You may feel different but believe me if the other spouse in a marriage won't face the facts and try to work it out it is over. Are you sure she isn't seeing someone else? Without knowing why she moved out it is difficult to say why she is acting this way. Now you will get a lot of advise on here but only you and she knows what is your heart. If ever you feel in your gut something is wrong than most of the time it is. I know how you feel because I have been there and matter of fact still stuck in that rut of wondering.
2006-08-26 07:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that if i got to the point where I was ready to not speak, see or live with my husband it would pretty much be over. And if she is sad on these special days it's because she is probably thinking about the good times you've had in the past and won't be having in the future. I'm sorry I'm just being honest here. Have you tried speaking to her parents to see how she feels? They may have some good insight into whether there is any hope or not. Sorry you're going through this. Have you told her that you'd be willing to go to couples counseling? That might help. Good luck with whatever happens.
2006-08-26 06:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do this becaues there are more issues to the situation than you choose to believe or see. a person can only handle so much before they explode. yea it hurts and that's why she breaks down but the reality of the situation is that she obviously isn't happy in the marriage rather than unhappy with you. again people don't realize how a stressful marriage effects people. maybe it's best that you don't get back together. once you decide to leave the thought will never leave your mind. eventually one day it will be the END. it's better to realize this and do it before time goes by and you've wasted time and energy on something already doomed for failure.
2006-08-26 07:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's what you do. You go see a lawyer and file for divorce. Your wife is playing a common game . Many women and some men want a divorce but they don't want to be the one to file so they do all kinds of crap: cut off sex, stop talking, move out andcut off commo but they keep saying they need more time or space. It's a ploy to force you to file for divorce that way she can tell her friends, parents, preist, kids etc... that you are the bad guy. "Oh I just needed time to think and then out of nowhere john filed for divorce on me."
So now is time to man up. Give her her wish; be the bad guy and file for divorce. But get the best divorce lawyer you can find. One you'll go to the mat for you and ensure you get the best deal you can out of this.
Why should you be forced to live in limbo because she wants to look good to her friends and family.
Luck
2006-08-26 06:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Experience speaking, since I moved out and need more time. You have to wait till they are ready to talk to you. Try to figure out why she left in the first place and work from there. You need to have serious alone time to make a plan for yourself as to what you are going to do with the rest of your life, if you will be single or stay married. If you are going to stay married you need to figure out how to make things better so you don't go through this again. My husband is pressuring me continually and I keep telling him if you continue the wait will be longer.
Good Luck.
2006-08-26 06:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the way mature people handle problems, for this way creates new problems. Set a time limit, stick to it, and proceed with whatever is necessary to either get back on track or get moving towards a future. She is punishing you for something and is using your love for her as the armaments...this is tyranny, pure and simple. You can disarm her by withdrawing your love as a weapon to be used against you. Sorry to sound so bleak, but this relationship has no hope if this is the way problems are handled. Good luck
2006-08-26 06:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have an answer for you but I am going through the EXACT same situation at the moment.. my wife and I have been together for about 5 years and married just over 1.. we just moved 2 stated away from 'home' to be closer to her folks and we had an explosive fight and she packed her **** and went back 'home'.. wont talk to me and been gone quite awhile now.. if you get an answer that works or things work out let me know what I need to do to get things rolling again... thanks.
2006-08-26 06:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by althor989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what did you do to piss her off. Find out what that is and make the situation right. Do what you can to make the marriage work. If she needs more time , find out and work through the problems. Get some marriage counseling and be the better person in putting it all together. It doesn't matter whose fault it is, the main problem is that you make the marriage work. The longer time passes by, the harder it it to have your marriage back in order. Good luck and and faith.
2006-08-26 06:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd put a time limit on the time and let her know she has until this certain date to make up her mind what she want. Life goes on and I would refuse to spend the rest of my life waiting around to see what happens with someone who doesn't want to talk to me or see me. But then again, that's just me.
2006-08-26 06:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋