i feel very sad everytime seems like nobody likes me. an advice?

Question

i dont feel beautiful, not well liked, not smart. im just a 17yrs old black girl and thats it. i dont give a damn about my life anymore. i dont even have one.

Answer 1

Sad that your self esteem is that low. I do not know you but am confident that you are like many others your age, both male and female. At the age where a lot of things are happening and are still a child but turning into a young adult at same time.

I have a few years on you but can identify with you a lot more than you might realize. I'm physically challenged and have had many of the same feelings as you are experiencing at present, but as I aged they became fewer and fewer. And also I cared less about how people may view me and started to feel good about myself.

So please try and see life in a more positive light. When you look into the mirror see the beauty that is there. When your in public smile at others (including strangers) as this will make others smile back and will change how you feel also. Start giving a dam about life and realize that your only given one shot at it so it's best to make the best of it while you can. And if you need to maybe you should volunteer with people less fortunate than you, maybe children with disabilities, and soon enough you will feel great about not only yourself but for all you have. In addition by volunteering with others you will develop friendships, will most likely turn into someone's hero and you'll feel like your contributing to society. Best of luck in picking up your spirits. Live is good enjoy it as it will pass quickly.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I feel the same way alot. alotalotalot. Like everyone has something special, theyre good at a sport, or singing, or get straight As, and then theres me. Nothing. just 17yr old nobody. nothing special or unique. but, its always easier to give adive then take it. I just think you should know there are so many people out there who feel the same way. At school, join a club. any club. Im doing big brothers big sisters this year, and its amazing. You get to spend time with little kids after school. Little kids who believe it or not NEED you. They need someone to play with them, hang out with them, and just be with them, because the enviorment they live in isnt safe, or stable. And, itll give you a self-esteem boost, because these kids look up to you like your god lol its great. Im pretty sure big brothers big sisters is everywhere, so if your school dosent offer it then you can log on to the web site, find one near you and sign up. Even if little kids arent your thing though, joining any club at school is a great way to meet new people. Once you meet new people, those people will introduce you to people ect. ect. and youll make friends, and maybe if you join the right club, youll find whatever youre good at in the process :]
sorry if this wasnt helpful. I feel the same way sometimes, and its not very easy to give advice on something your struggling with also, but after I started that big brothers big sisters program, and started hanging with my friends more, things HAVE gotten better. So you just really need to know, things WILL get better, no matter how awful they seem right now.

Answer 3

Get involved with helping others. You will soon see that there are many far worse off than you and you will gain self esteem and self worth by volunteering. You will also be loved and appreciated by those you help. Tutor or mentor a child. Become a member of Big Sisters. Volunteer at a nursing home or a hospital. Join Habitat for Humanity or the Peace Corps. You are wanted and needed by many who have a very difficult life.

Answer 4

first of all ignore that other a$s hole ric6k9. i was never a pretty girl. i just wanted to hide all the time. then i realised that people dont focus on my looks as much as i think they do. come on, do YOU really go looking at other people and looking for flaws. chances are, other people arent either. ya there may be jerks that focus on that, but hey, life isnt about looks, its about living the best you can and being happy with what you got. dont give up. i know i am a good, funny, loving, and giving person. as long as i stop hiding, people will see that. hope this was helpful

Answer 5

Look hear girl. i'm a 13 year old girl( a tough black girl from Brooklyn N.Y but now lives in Texas) in the 9th grade. So what if noone likes you. Good things will happen to you in the furture. It happen to me. before i really didn't care about anyone because you can't really trust people these days. but now i found two friends that like for who i am. don't give up ok. think about your furture. think about what life you will have in the furture. just remember thier is over a billion people in this world. someone some where will like you. Just don't give up.

Answer 6

You have to learn to love yourself before you can feel that others love you think about some of your greatest accomplishments and then look in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are worth something you need to tell yourself that until you start to believe it otherwise you will eventually end up feeling worse about your self. Basically you need to learn to love your self. I hope that this advice will help you.

Answer 7

why are you telling ppl on YA?
go get some kind of life and stop crying. you're 17 get a job and than maybe you'll make some friends.
but, don't expect to many ppl on YA to give a sh!t.

Answer 8

Dear

First you need to love yourself regardless who you are. If you are proud of yourself, you will have courage to acheive things and be creative. People will love you for your achievement regardless of your beauty. The will say she is cute at least. Ask me, I know

Answer 9

get out and do something! make ur life as fun as it can get!

Answer 10

email me