Ok so here's the deal: I've been friends with a girl for a good year now, we talk a lot(like everyday), we go out pretty often., ya we became good friends, I really trust her.
Now she has a trust issue.
She once told me before that she felt I used her.. like whenever I wanna go out with someone and it doesn't work out then i'll call her up.
Which isn't untrue, but I ask her because I still wanted to go out and have fun that's why I ask her, not to use her. Besides I do have a lot of friends but during the whole summer I was basically with that girl!
So 2 days ago my friend invited me to go clubbing because it's the birthday of one of our other girl friends.
Now I told my friend about it ( the girl that takes things personal)
I didn't ask her to come right away. I only told her ohh im gonna have fun it's all people I havent seen in a while!
the next day I asked her though if she wanted to come, but she told me no i wont know anyone and everything so im like ok nevermind dont come.
2006-08-26 05:38:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she she basically told me she didnt wanna go, thats why i didnt insist on her coming. So she told me today that since I asked her she felt like I was using her. We had a big discussion about it, like she doesnt trust me and she wont admit it, but sure feels that way what should i do? she said she will try not to take things personally but its often like that, and she doesnt even always tell me
She asked me if i still wanted to stay friends of course i do, but now i will ask myself questions everytime.. like will she doubt what im about to tell her???
2006-08-26 05:40:21 · update #1
im not dating her, basically she doesnt trust me sometimes, but she wont admit it
2006-08-26 05:45:39 · update #2
just invite her to generic things, like the movies or a concert, or whatever and do not name it, for a basic amount of time (weekend, week, month, or a couple of weeks.) Because it is an invite originally to her. when you call her on short notice ( a day or two ) because your plans fell through, just call her up, and just ask her if she still wants to go, make sure not to say that someone else cancelled. or it might just be better, to mostly just actually make specific plans with that friend, because it seems that you like her, and she wants to be friends with you, but just doesn't want to feel second best.
2006-08-26 05:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by David 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your friend does have some issues, probably of being accepted, for whatever reason. All you can do is try to keep in mind how fragile her feeling might be, when making your decisions. I think it would benefit you to bring her along, talk her into it. Show her how to have a good time and mingle. Some people just are not as social as others, and their shyness is percieved differently by their peers.
2006-08-26 12:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by melissa6119 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so wait.. you're dating that girl ? whaa ? u made it really confuzing...post a comment bak to me plz ...
2006-08-26 12:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy C♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋