my husband says he will give me a baby if i give him a threesome, what exactly is he saying yes he will have a baby but hes gona get a threesome out of it or no baby because he knows im not into threesomes.
2006-08-26 05:30:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he knows just how much i desire a baby do you think he is playing with my emotions and feelings
2006-08-26 05:32:03 · update #1
Someone who "Plays with your emotions and feelings" is in no way father material.
A baby isn't something to be "given". It's about sharing the love you have with each other, and wanting to expand upon that love by adding to it, the joys and blessings of children, to add to your family.
A baby isn't a trinket or prize. If you as a couple both aren't ready to have children, and aren't prepared for the responsibilities - financial, emotional, being key ones.. then a baby shouldn't even be part of the question.
Trading sex to get what you want is akin to prostituting.
2006-08-26 05:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by ceemcee05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sounds really messed up of him to do that.....
you should try talking to him about it tell him how you would liek to have a child with him and that threesomes could destroy a marriage! if he loves you he should be willing to do anything for you. if your not into threesomes then maybe wait a year or two and ask him to havea child again, maybe hes just going through a weird phase?
hmmm or if your on the birth control pill you can "forget to take a few" lol and get a baby that way!
or poke holes the the package of the condoms?
good luck =) hope things work out
2006-08-26 13:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is not family material. If you desire a family, then this isn't your man. What he said is not right. At ALL. A child isn't a bargaining chip. Search deep - is this the man you want to spend the rest of your life with?? Besides, if you are pregnant...isn't that technically a threesome?
Don't let him play with you like this. Let him know that what he said is NOT cool. If he laughs it off or continues to be a jerk, then honey...you gotta get out. Things like this usually won't get better. Men won't change from "selfish, mind game playing jerk" to perfect husband; sorry to say.
Best of luck to you. Make your decision wisely hon.
2006-08-26 13:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by mandabear3121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely - actually he's blackmailing you. To treat your potential offspring in this regard is so questionable - and make him or her worth a tawdry experience is appalling. I don't think this man wants to have children or at least children who grow up to be good successful people.
All else I can say is that if my husband would have put me in this position - I would never be able to look him in the eye again much less sex, children - anything again. He has such little value for children that I would never be able to leave the child alone with him. I would lose all trust and faith after more contemplation.
Good luck with such a creep. Sorry he turned out to be such a yucko. It's your choice now sweetie - what are you and your kids worth?
2006-08-26 12:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to get a divorce. Your husband is supposed to be your best friend and husband, in other words he should not play you like that. What a jerk. Do not give him a threesome if you are not into it.
2006-08-26 12:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's saying he wants to have some fun of a sort he can't have with kids arround. Having a little one sure would make a threesome more difficult, maybe they're both something he's always wanted, but he wants both.
2006-08-28 15:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for a new husband!!!
I don't care how much You desire to have a baby, You should not de-moralize Yourself to have one. That just takes away all self-respect from yourself.
You should create a baby out of love, not compromise.
I think it's high-time you get out of that marriage and find you a real man to love you and have children with him. You will save your morality and respect and love your baby & your husband more for it!
2006-08-26 12:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Regina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... thats just not a fair swap. nor is the right way to approach parenthood. i mean how do you answer "mom, when did you and dad decide to have me??" cause "well honey daddy wanted to hit it with mommy and another boy or girl and then he allowed me to get pregnant". sorry thats just twisted. you need to look into marriage counseling and see why he has a need to go outside of your marriage and hold your future children technically hostage before you even TRY and get pregnant. because whose to say when your 8 months pregnant and not intrested in sex he wont call up the other person in the 3 some for some side action?
2006-08-26 12:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by autumnl78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty mean of him if he doesn't want kids right now what not just say it He doesn't seem like A very good husband. I hope he is not serious about A three some.
2006-08-26 12:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by honeygirland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume he is joking no guy I would think would be that insensitive, just ask him when he wants to have kids if he says that again tell him it wont happen and you are serious if he doesnt give you a straight answer then dump him if you want kids and he doesnt there is nothing else you can do.
2006-08-30 12:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by Courtney G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋