Why even touch a guy? My dog is more sanitarty then them!?

Question

I am a 21 year old law student and proud to be virgin! Why do guys I know ask me out on a date (I always demand we go dutch) and then say they want to hook-up? And I say you have all your life to be hooked to another person! Why now in college? And why you?

It's like working! I'm not about to work in college! I have all my life to do that! Why now? Why not depend on my parents for another couple of years?

Does it just seems silly to anyone else that in order to show affection you have to touch some of the most unsanitary places on another's body? Why the lips? Can't we just wiggle our noses on top of each other or touch ears? I hate holding hands! (I can walk myself you know) I don't know what those perverts have been doing!

I have studied some pornography and think sex is disgusting. Don't people realize they urinate out of those places? At least bring a kleenex with you if you are sexually active! And why do they get naked? I can hardly get naked in front of my mother!

I just don't understand guys or them! They hate me and I don't care! They're beasts! ( I agree whole-heartedly with Machiavelli!) I don't care what they say! They're perverts.

Answer 1

Congratulations on being a virgin. I'll pause while the audience gives you a round of applause.


Your whole argument is completely ridiculous. If you don't want to have sex, fine. Don't. But your reasons are innane.

Most people have a job for one reason, to make money. They may pick a job that they find more enjoyable, but given the choice I think most people would choose to get money with working (at least at first). People enjoy sex. It's something they want. They don't want to just leave it for later. And the part about depending on your parents, you need to watch your juxtaposition. That could give the wrong impression.

In your third paragraph, you've completely disregarded the whole appeal of sex. The feeling. It feels good. That's it. If you could get the same level of stimulation from wiggling your hose on top of someone, I'm guessing most people would risk the pregnancy or STD route. But you can't. As for the holding hands, get out of your bubble. There are bathrooms everywhere for you to wash your hands, and you can always bring around one of the evaporating hand sanitzers.

And the nudity issue... really? A lot of people have issues getting naked, but again you're going back to your mother. It kinda makes me wonder why everything involving sex comes back around to your parents. I think most people would have an easier time getting naked for an intimate partner than in front of a parent.

In closing, I'd have to say that you don't sound like you could be a 21 year old law student. Maybe a 21 year old theology student or a 12 year old who watches Law & Order and wants to be like Jack McCoy. You just don't seem like someone who knows enough about this situation. To offer you one piece of advice, I'd say try masturbating. I'm entirely serious on this one. I know girls don't do this as much and it might not always work as well for them, but give it a try. This way, you get an 'intimate' encounter but you get to set all the boundaries. You can wash your hands as many times before and after as you want to take care of the sanitary issue (use warm/hot water), you know you don't have to worry about disease, and you don't have to worry about being pushed towards something uncomfortable.

Answer 2

It sounds like you have some psychological issues around sex. I'm not advising you go out a be promiscuous but if you have a problem even holding hands and think the idea of sex is disgusting then there is definitely something wrong.

My bet is something happened in your past which influenced you to be this way. Maybe find a good counselor or try some alternative therapies like the Rosen Method. Meditation can also help reveal things about yourself. Once you quite the mind..... the truth just kind of ~floats~ to the surface.

Answer 3

I have a male friend who is angry at women in general. I keep telling him that not all women are the same. I would give you the same advice about men.

I am a man. My wife has a higher sex drive than I do! Wanting to have sexual intercourse is not perverted. Perversion is when you use sexuality in inappropriate ways.

The desire to have sex is ingrained in humanity, male AND female, without it the human race would not continue. Under your logic perverts have kept the human race alive and well.

Having said all that, everybody's different. Some people crave human companionship, some do not. If you do not want sex or too much male companionship there is nothing wrong with that, but seeing all men as deviant sexual perverts...well that's a little far fetched when we are just trying to observe the commandments of our natures, BUT it should be tempered with some morality.

Hope you find happiness.

Answer 4

First off I am a 21 yr old guy and I just read your Q and think that it is really good. It made me grin quite a lot. You are definently the minority when it comes to people. I'll bet that you don't meet many people like you, is this right? That is okay, you are unique, very very unique.

I think that you have a very very mature outlook on life and that is why guys are attracted to that. Why they are asking you out:) and everything. Take it as a compliment, not every guy just wants to get in your pants that asks you out. If he wants to pay, he might just like you, its not that he is trying to prep you for some other alternative motive.

You are a very smart girl and someday you will understand the intricate importance of rubbing the parts that we urinate together and touching lips. Probably 1% of all the people who engage in sexual activity even comes remotely close to what you saw in the porno which you watched.

Guys especially have been conditioned to want to do things this way because of our natural born inclinations, we watch it then want to do it. Most laddies aren't that way anyway!

Keep your concentration on school, sounds like it is your future and don't ever give up anything that you aren't ready for. However, don't dismiss sex and men altogether. Later in life when you are ready keep your eyes open for THE ONE and he'll be there.

I tend to agree with you when it comes to people and their relationships why do you want to be attached to somebody during college, your gonna have your whole life for that you know?

However I disagree that your dog is more sanitary than me! LOL

And those who work in college perhaps have to in order to attain their status and maintain going to school. Mom and Dad can't always help out.

I am at a State University and live at home because that is the only support they can give to me. Everything else I pay for through my job. My truck an 1983nissan, insurance for it, cell phone, tools, food, etc. I help out with what I can at home, but I also pay for my tuition and books. Anyway thought you might wanna know!

God Bless and don't be too cruel on us guys we know that women are always right but don't always like to admit it!

Answer 5

It is obvious that you are a germaphobic virgin and has never had a man/woman based on your comments.
Touching, kissing (on the lips), holding hands are signs of affection, when you do these things you think not of germs! You get these warm tingly feelings inside that makes you yearn for more.

Answer 6

I waited until I got married to have sex, so kudos to you.

But trust me, sanitaion really doesnt cross your mind during sex.

But not wanting to touch another person? I think you might have some issues that need professional attention. Its not okay to go your whole life without enjoying human contact, we're tactile creatures for a reason. Its needed for our physical AND emotional health.

Answer 7

Wow! Ok...
Um, maybe you should see someone about this. Are you OCD?

Anyway- so you just want a companion with no sex. Somewhere out there I bet you can find one. It'll be a long hard search!
Would you touch a girl?

Answer 8

Interesting.

I think you could find somebody out there- its gonna be hard.

That is really different; are you sure you don't have a disease or condition? You might want to seek Professional Medical help.

Psychologist or Psychiatrist
- maybe its just the way you are.

Answer 9

I had the same mentality.... When I was 8!

You'll (hopefully) grow out of it. Or you'll become like that OCD guy in "As good as it gets"

Answer 10

Thinking this way how can you even be a law student .