well, i have a boyfriend that i have been dating since i was 3 months pregnant....which also means that i have a baby daddy...they happen to know each other (i didnt know that at the time) but my baby daddy wants to get back with me and i dont, i wanna stay with my man....the only problem is that my baby daddy keeps causing a lot of problems.....so i cut him off from the rest of my pregnancy until the baby is born. Do you think that i went to far with my descision or should i try to work it out
2006-08-26 05:17:06 · 18 answers · asked by Donna J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am six months pregnant now
2006-08-26 05:31:35 · update #1
Un wanted drama during a pregnacy can cause a lot of problems with the pregnacy itself. Stress can make you have contractions before you are supposed to. I had this problem while i was pregnant.
The fact that you took away the drama is not wrong. You are just protecting yourself and your child. It is the right thing to do. If you feel like he should be there to help you make sure you tell him he's causeing more harm then anything right now and you need him to calm down. First thing is first - your child may not be in the world yet but is counting on you to make it a good place before he/she is born.
good luck and congrats (mine is 3 months now) :D
2006-08-26 05:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good to leave lines of communication open between you and your baby's daddy. It is his child too. If he would want to be there when his child is born, that should be an option that you leave open to him as well. Just because of difficulties between the two of you, he shouldn't have to miss that once in a lifetime opportunity for him and the baby. Hopefully you will be able to work some kind of agreement out between the two of you before then. You don't want to make him miss something that he can't get back. It wouldn't be fair.
2006-08-26 12:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by ncladams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a wonderful thing that your baby's biological father wants to be involved.
And, after the baby is born - he will have rights to be with the child. There is nothing you can do, to take away those rights. He might also end up taking that baby from you, as courts don't like mothers who try to keep a child away from the other parent.
2006-08-26 13:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're pregnant now, so the most important thing is you and your baby. So if the dad is causing too much problem I think you have the right to cut him off, because if he's endangering you, he also can hurt the baby. Pregnant woman should not be stressing out!
But you should remember that he has the right to be involved because he is the dad.
You need to think about yourself and the baby first.
2006-08-26 12:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when women don't check out the character of man before bringing a child into the world. You are more concerned with boyfriend issues how selfish of you. Are you going to cycle in and out of boyfriends for the rest of your child's life? Are you not going to give your child and example of what it means to grow up in a stable home with two loving committed parents who are married? You are only 3 months pregnant and you have already introduced your unborn baby to drama before even coming into the world.
Why don't you focus on getting your act together and forget about boyfriends? Why don't you try creating life with men who intend on marrying you rather then dealing with immature boys?
My baby daddy? Hmmm.....How about giving that baby a father who respects you enough to marry you and give your child more then an undecided mind of whether or not he wants to be with you?
U should be highly ashamed of how low your expectations are. Real women wouldn't settle for such trash. Have more self respect for yourself and don't settle just for some boyfriend. Because I bet this boyfriend will leave you and you will be on to the next. How cute....a baby exposed to different men. What a classact.
2006-08-26 12:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you are wrong if you don't want to be with him then you don't have to. If you broke up with him then it apparently was for a reason, and if the other guy is good to you and good for your baby then I say go for it. I do think that you should let him be apart of the pregnancy as far as doctor appt. are concerned because even though you don't want to be with him you both still have to be able to maintain a civil relationship for the child. If that don't work out then you have to do what you have to do.
2006-08-26 12:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by kiss4virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you let your babys daddy know that you no longer want a relationship with him and if he doesnt realize that, then he's gonna have to keep his distance for a while. Penalizing a man for wanting to keep his family together isnt the way to go (unless he's a complete idiot and no good).
2006-08-26 12:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that baby needs security in his life. As a mother you need to provide this for him. Give him a Daddy and only one daddy. Your child deserves better.
2006-08-26 12:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is that you got into a new relationship too soon. You must ask yourself if you will ever want to be with your baby daddy again. beffore proceeding with your next decision. I would say try to close one chapter properly first before you start the new chapter. You don't want to hurt to many peoples feelings.
2006-08-26 12:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ani - kalabar girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your baby's daddy is going to cause you stress then you did the right thing. You don't need to be stressed out while you are pregnant.
2006-08-26 12:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋