They haven't seen eachother in 10 years do to a falling out. They are meeting at their dad's house about 3 hours away from here. My fiance is taking our 2 yr old son. Should I be offended (like I somewhat am) that he chose not to invite me? Or should I relax and be happy that they are going to have a nice guy bonding weekend? I bet I should be happy for them, right?
2006-08-26 04:51:34 · 12 answers · asked by Curious1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish I could choose all of you as best answers. I needed to hear all your comments, thank you. I feel a lot better about the situation now.
2006-08-26 05:47:55 · update #1
I think you should be happy about it. Him and his brother have a lot to catch up on. I think you would prefer hanging out at home with no kid or fiance for the weekend than staying in his dads place while the brothers go off doing their bonding thing. He may not be sure how the weekend is going to turn out with his brother and doesn't want you to get involved for now.
ENJOY A WEEKEND BY YOURSELF. GET A MASSAGE OR HANG WITH GIRLFRIENDS (HEY DO A SLEEP OVER WITH GIRLFRIENDS) ENJOY!!
2006-08-26 05:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said, he needs bonding time and next time you can go, but being that he is taking your son, which is two, that seems odd. There won't be much bonding time with a two year old. Two year olds need time and attention. If your fiance is taking your son then you should have been asked to go as well. Talk to your fiance and ask him why you aren't invited? Good luck
2006-08-26 12:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you be offended ? The man is going to meet the brother he hasn't seen in 10 years. This is a very important thing them to be doing and quite honestly you have neither a place nor a function is this endeavor.
Kiss him good bye , tell him you love him and wish him well and let him do what he needs to do.
2006-08-26 12:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he needs a time with the guys. That is why he is taking your son. He needs time to bond with him, and to also make a mends with his brother...and see his father. I say, let him go guilt-free. When he leaves the door, kiss him hug him (hug and kiss your son)...and say "Have an awesome weekend guys! Love you!" And mean it...and smile. :) Even if you feel deep down you are confused or disturbed...know in your heart he will come back to you with your son...and he will enjoy his weekend. And when he comes back, let him come to you with the stories of the weekend. Don't hound him. Let him gather his thoughts before also bringing any "home life" to his attention. I have learned when I let my husband go where he needs to, and wants to...guilt-free...he comes back a better man.
2006-08-26 13:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Fiance wants to meet his brother after 10 years, it's normally not to take you by the 1st visit.
Yes, you should be happy for them.
He can takes you by the 2nd visit.
PS.: If you don't have a mother in-law, or/and his brother has no wife or gf with him, i guess you'll feel boring by the 1st visit.
2006-08-26 12:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Totti Frotti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I agree with you. He should have invited you along unless he is ashamed of you. I would be just as equally mad or upset as you are. You need to explain to him that you are a part of the family now as well and would love to see his brother and get a more 'hands' on feel for his family.
2006-08-26 11:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with totti frotti..maybe hes anxious and nervous and doesnt know how its gonna go for the first time so he wnated to take it on alone, by bringing your son that shows hes still thinking of his family...i wouldnt freak out about it and u shud be happy and think what if it turns out awkward atleast you arent there to see it all go down and if it goes good im sure in the near future you will be included....its pretty natural to feel offended but try to understand hes probably anxious as hell and wants everything to go smoothly.....good luck :)
2006-08-26 12:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husb and i share everything together and would never go away without the other one unless necessary. If that was us my husb would want his brother to meet me also. Obviously they have some issues but that would b respected giving them alone time. Why did he just make that decission, why wouldnt u both have a conversation about it, and talk about what to do.
2006-08-26 12:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SINCE HE HASN'T SEEN HIN IN 10 YEARS, THEN IT WOULD BE SAFE TO ASSUME THAT THERE IS SOME BAD BLOOD THERE. MAYBE HIS BRO STOLE HIS GIRL AND HURT HIS EGO. THAT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. IF THAT WERE THE CASE, I COULD UNDERSTAND WHY HE WOULDN'T WANT HIS BRO TO MEET YOU......LET THEM GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER AGAIN AND WHEN HE GETS BACK, ASK HIM TO TELL YOU ALL ABOUT IT. AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT HIM CHEATING OR ANYTHING, ESPECIALLY IF HE IS TAKING YOUR SON ALONG. RELAX AND PAMPER YOURSELF OR GO OUT WITH THE GIRLS....
2006-08-26 16:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should take you too, You are a part of this family but I guess he doesnt want you to be there.
2006-08-26 11:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋