Me and my bf have been together two yrs. We both had bad relationships previosly and he found his wife in bed with another man just 18 months after they were married. We talk about getting married and he tells me he really wants to, so why won't he propose? i am really and truly devoted to him and love him to pieces, he knows that, what can i do?
2006-08-26 04:44:01 · 17 answers · asked by Rachie J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably does want to, but is really scared after his last experience and who can blame him? I would give it a bit more time as in psychological terms it takes about 2 years to properly get over a broken relationship, divorce or bereavement. The way his marriage ended was quite dramatic, he must have experienced shock and betrayal. It is nothing to do with you as to why he won't propose, but because of his past hurt and he is terrified it will happen again, even if he knows you wouldn't do that to him. He has to learn to trust. As I say give him say another 6 months, if nothing has happened why don't you bite the bullet and ask him to marry you? He might also be frightened to ask you in case you reject him, as his ex did. Good luck and I wish you every happiness together.
2006-08-26 05:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two years may seem like a long time but it really isn't especially if he has been married before. He is scared of it right now and you can't blame him, his first marriage he found his wife in bed only after 18 months. That killed his ego. If you love him and he loves you just give him time if it is meant to be it will happen. Marriage is a big step.
2006-08-26 11:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow hes probabley still hurtin deep inside its a big thing to get over.
if you are truly devoted to him whats the rush you will have plenty of happy years together, but dont pressurise him into it just enjoy yourselves than he will realise that you the one for him so when he eventually does propose it will be extra special and a big surprise.
2006-08-26 11:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by stacey f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a trick one! It could be because he wants to surprise you and can't when it is obviously on your mind so much, or it could be because he needs a push!
Would you consider proposing to him?
Maybe you should just come out and ask him why he hasn't popped the question yet, or failing that, just point out a ring you like in the jewellers window........worked for me! lol
Good luck...can I come to the wedding?
2006-08-26 11:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait for him to do it. he will ask when he's good and ready i know people who have been together for over 10 years and are still not married. he is probably just taking it slow to ensure that it is definitely what he wants. what the rush anyways enjoy the relationship
2006-08-26 12:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slowly
he's had a bad experience with marriage before and probably needs time to get used to the idea of getting married again.
All you can do is prove that you will stand by him no matter what happens be nice, supportive, extra caring,...
He will realise that there is no better than you!
2006-08-26 11:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he scared to commit specially after he has been hurt. once bitten twice shy, give him time. marriage is important but so is confidence in a relationship. maybe he needs the wound in his heart to heal b4 he is ready to leap again. dont push him, u will only push him away. comfort him make him know that u r all his and no one will ever change that.
2006-08-26 11:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reassure hijm dat u will neva do 2 him wot his wife did 2 him, hes may feel insecure, or woteva, n needs 2 no ur dere 4 him, da 1 n all dat, give him sum tym, or talk bout it, but dnt push him, so u both no where u r on dis.
2006-08-26 12:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Purple Gem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep having fun together and just enjoy being together, what is the obbsession with getting married just love being loved and giving love.
best of luck x
2006-08-26 11:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by summerbabae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, dearie. He's a bit confused with his wife betraying him and he needs some time to think and finalise his move. Wait and watch.
2006-08-26 11:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋