My family is bugging me to go to the beach so we can all watch my sisters boyfriend give her a ring (hes okay i guess). Its 3 hours away and i have to be at work 2morrow early. I dont want to go. is it so bad i dont go?
I know i asked this before but i dont have to work 2day but i do 2 morrow.
2006-08-26 04:43:37 · 23 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, its not because im jealous? WTF?
2006-08-26 04:50:05 · update #1
I am very close with my sister. Ill go.
2006-08-26 05:06:17 · update #2
If you can't go you can't go. This may not be something important for you but yet your family is wanting you to be there for a reason. They want you to share this special moment with your sister. I think my question is why wouldn't you want to be there for that? I have 2 sister's and 4 brothers and I remember that one of my brother's proposed to his wife in our living room and I was right there. It was awesome. And I'll tell you what, I am most close with my sisters and if I knew that there guy was going to pop the question and they wanted me to be apart of it, you bet I would clear my schedule! But it doesn't sound like you and your sister are that close and it's just sounds like you could care less.....I don't think your jealous. Maybe you just don't care for this guy for your sister...who knows.....
2006-08-26 05:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Families put a lot of pressure on us. Sometimes we feel obligated because we've been raised this way since very young.
If in your heart you don't feel like going, then don't go. Send them a nice card. Call her and in your most loving way tell her how happy you are for her (if you are).
But don't feel pressured to go, you have your own life. 6 hours of travel in one day is too much... the wedding will come soon and you will be there. If you go now you might be resentful and that's not a good thing.
I can't believe people are saying that if you don't go she will never forgive you. Don't let anybody make you feel guilty. Guilt is a useless feeling.
2006-08-26 05:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Evenstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, we all have to learn in life when to say "no."
It is a good lesson for you. I learned a long time ago that my life is my life, and I do not have to make other people happy, I have to make me happy. I have better friends now, I know my friends are real, because we can say "no" to each other about different things that we want to do or not want to do, and no ones feelings are hurt. It is awesome to own your own power. Do what you want to do. Anyways you would be there all for the wrong reasons. You wouldn't enjoy yourself and others would be able to feel that.
2006-08-26 04:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you don't want to go and you have to work tomorrow. But this will be a very special day for your sister. It is a small sacrifice on your part, to be a part of a memory your sister will have for a lifetime. I say, if you love your sister, you should go. So you will be a little tired tomorrow, this will pass. sc
2006-08-26 04:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you close to you sister? She is going to be happy either way, if you come or don't. You being there isn't really going to change anything. I am sure she can tell you everything over the phone.
2006-08-26 04:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by tunataker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how close u r to ur sister. if u r close then i would suggest u take the day off. she will not forgive u if u knew of such a special occasion and didnt show up. but if u guys r not so close then just tell her after he proposes that u r sorry u couldnt be there.
2006-08-26 04:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said it yourself. You don't want to go. Then don't. A proposal is personal. The wedding, however, is the big production. Just make sure you don't miss the wedding. Explain that you cannot go and forget about it. And don't you dare let them make you feel guilty!
2006-08-26 04:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're too busy with your work and other stuff, I think it's okay to say that you're busy. Just make sure you don't hurt your sister's feelings, though. Good luck!
2006-08-26 04:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you Know your answer you are just looking for someone to agree with you so you feel better about it because what your really wanting to do isnt right but if someone else agree's then in your mind it is ok,
you will search and search until someone or enough pepole say waht you really want to hear not what you really need to do!!Just do what you really think is right!!
2006-08-26 04:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps' you can buy her a congratulations card and give it to her with a hug. It's good that you are responsible toward your work and your own rest. Your family should respect your decision.
2006-08-26 04:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋