I want serious answers ONLY. I want to know why a man who is married and has children , would ever cheat on his pregnant wife. He acts weird at the same time of the year/pregnacy. My "friend's" huspand acts strange, disappers, and has cheated, during the same time of the past 3 years. Plus to make matters worse he has done it during all three of her pregnancies. She is pregnant now and he has disappered. Please tell me why someone would do this. It not only hurts her, which she can deal with that, but it hurts her almost 4 year old daughter and 8 month old son too. Plus not to mention her unborn child also. I just don't understand.
2006-08-26 04:36:54 · 26 answers · asked by mommyramey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They usually get along really well before he disappears. I know her, and I don't think the sex is the problem. Thank you all for the good answers.
2006-08-26 05:39:15 · update #1
scared,stupid, maybe he feels the need to go out and verify that he's " a man" but more than likely just a moron that has not grow up yet most of us never do.Just be there for her and encourage her to dump the *** hat now before he brings her home a gift that keeps giving an std
Personally i believe a pregnant woman is the most beautiful creature in the world and i do love them all very sexy, my i had my way my wife would be pregnant all the time, good thing she doesn't feel the same way he he
2006-08-26 04:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not a man but I can try to give some advise or my opinion of it. Maybe hes feels tied down. Everytime "she" gets pregnant he may start having doubts about what he really wants in his life and may even feel unsatified not by "her" but by himself. When I was pregnant I read a lot into the psychie of the male mind before during and after birth. Men get scared. They wont admit it either because sometimes they dont know that they are scared either. Being a good father is hard enough and then you have to play in the facts of general bills, bills for clothes food and doctor visits, college ect... its a lot for a man to handle because men arent like women. When something is bothering a women they vent to whom ever they can. Men dont do that.
As far a cheating goes we've all been there and we've all heard this "If you allow them to cheat once they will think its okay to do it again" because you will take them back and you shouldnt. I was with a guy who cheated and I said its okay dont let it happen again. And time and time again it happened. Granted I didnt have kids then. But it will not stop. Even if you have kids, the kids should not be the reason why "she" should stay at all! It hurts the child the same way it hurts "her" and why let them feel that pain. There is always help out there,"she" just need to search for it. And one day a great man will come along and except and respect "her" and love "her" children as much as his own. Hope this helped
2006-08-26 04:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by the_question_girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well in some cases the woman loses interest in sex and the man is weak and strays, and some men are turned off by pregnant women or have some other phobia involving the pregnancy and those guys stray too. I never did with my wife but I know men that have, they usually don't have any intention of leaving their wife and most become faithful again after the baby is born AND the woman becomes sexual again. a guy who cheats when his wife isn't pregnant will ALWAYS cheat but many men that get away with this goofy behavior during pregnancy try to be good husbands afterword, I'm not condoning this behavior but just trying to say some otherwise good men get a little goofy when going through pregnancy. I hope that is helpful to your question.
2006-08-26 04:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The short answer? He's a scumbag. The long answer begs a different question: Why is your friend putting up with it AND allow himself to be impregnated by him knowing that it simply condones the behavior as acceptable?
Maybe he's a good father and husband when he does come back and that's why she puts up with it and sets the chain of events in motion by getting pregrant again. Maybe she sees it as some outstanding "booty call" ritual and takes that imperfection since no one is perfect.
So, yes, the guy is a dirtball. Maybe his father was the same way. Maybe he's uncomfortable with having intercourse with a pregnant woman and has no sexual restraint or moral compass. However, if the woman has proof that he is out having an affair and takes him back every year, she has made her decision and as a "friend" you can only be there to show support or provide alternatives if she finally does want to shut him out for keeps.
2006-08-26 04:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Aristotle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AM NOT A MALE AS YOU CAN TELL. But when I was pregnant 3 1/2 months ago my fiance well back then he wasn't my fiance disappeared on me. His father passed when we found out I was pregnant and we had broken up right before we found out then he went wild. Like seriously I didn't know who he was. So he dated some ugly chick. WHile I was pregnant with his daughter. Then, at my 8th month he came back to me apologizing and wanting me to forgive him. Beleive me I didnt want too I was determined to move on. But he explained why he did it.
It had to do with "fear" and the emotions of his father passing really threw him off. O yeah and the fact that the girl he was with bought him whatever he wanted. Yeah men are weak they tend to go for the low life woman who will throw themselves over loops and jump backwards. I became a ***** and now he won't even let me go without making sure he knows were I am going. I have learned that he knows he has a good woman but at a moments notice I can leave him with no looking back.
Men honestly have no clue how we feel when we get hurt until its done to them and then they dont even get it.
Your friend loves this man for that she wont leave until that final moment and that triggers her and then she may never look back not all woman can do that. But it can happen. Just be there for her and the kids. Don't pressure her to leave him that never works its actually the complete opposite she'll still beleive in him cause no one likes him.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-26 04:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by rainymar143 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can suggest a possibility and honestly I hope it helps.
When the lady is pregnant, sex is harder and she gets aplenty of mood swings which make her very unattractive, not to mention the inflated figure and giant boobs.
The man would probably be someone with a high sex dr. That would explain all the quick pregnancies. When he is unfulfilled, he cheats. Simple as that. I would blame eithe party but it is the nature of the guy ya. Ask your friend to reconsider the marriage carefully if she cannot tolerate this. My advice would be to stay till the kids are grown up and independent before going for divorce.
2006-08-26 04:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An easy answer would be to say he has a screw loose, or he wants sex so bad he just can't stand it, but I think it would go much deeper than that, that IF and I say IF, he truly loves his children and her, it may be some problems that he needs help with like in his mind when she gets so big she is digusting to him or revolting to him, so he will go have sex with someone else, and this someone else is it always a different person or is it a prostitute or several different people, all would have a bearing on his actions.
2006-08-26 04:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women can be pressuring during a pregnancy. The men feel over hauled by their wife and seek to find someone who can treat them better. This can be true in some occasions but to tell you the Truth there are hundreds of other reasons too.
2006-08-26 04:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by lightaes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look pregnancy means commitment maybe he commit. He wants her there for a guarantee. He know she ain't going anywhere. She put up with it so far so He just going to keep downing. He has his security at home and is allowed to play as well;. He not much of a father she really needs to fine someone better. He has his cake and can eat it too.
2006-08-26 04:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by keith_r83 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand either. This is a time when he and she can bond and also a time when she needs her most,Maybe they are such dopes that they always have to do the missionary position all the time (slam her head against the headboard) and they are too boring to figure out different positions. Nobody can be sexy all the damn time, and when is my wife gonna have a kid with me?:0(
2006-08-26 04:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Matt M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋