ok i think i have a commitment problem i don't understand why and i need advice....see the problem is i have a boyfriend whom i love very much but i can't stick to him alone i find myself needing another guy(s).I enjoy being nude and having other watch me but i can't even think of him withsome one else.i love my boyfriend very much and don't want him to leave me but am just having these feeling to show myself to others or to cheat on him. do you have any advice to offer?
2006-08-26 04:31:42 · 18 answers · asked by lisa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The obvious answer people will give you is that you don't really love and have wild oats to sew.
I have come in contact with this syndrome before. The out come is never nice.
There are doctors and groups that will offer help. This is not unique.
In the mean time , If you indeed love your boyfriend , there should be an emptiness when apart.
See his face and say to yourself, "Is this feeling worth losing him. Remember every act has consequences. tell yourself over and over.
If your drive is stronger than your love, live without your love in a world that feeds your frenzy without love. It's one or the other , you can;t have both for long
2006-08-26 04:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey it sounds like you really dont Love your man....You might like his attention or the comfort of belonging to him but bottomline you thrive off the gazing eyes of other men etc....Your completely healthy though ..your just not truly commited to him! Your probably a fine piece and enjoy all the flirts and being wanted....its a turn on to you which is alright!! Maybe you should try to test yourself and your realness with him? If you are daring enough to ask him or tell him you want to be playful and himrole-play with you or even a threesome would ignite your flame perhaps??
2006-08-26 04:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by fxbeto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to understand your need for being seen nude. is it a complex- do you like being told you are sexy, etc? if so, you should feel confident about yourself as you are and with the boyfriend who loves you. the same way you feel about him being with others, he would feel the same way about you being with other guys. so if you love him enough and want to be that special someone for each other, grow up, be confident and be happy with one guy. also, you might think of going to a shrink.
2006-08-26 04:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by publically_private 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all tell your boyfriend your feeling. work on the problem together. Two thanks can happen. Your relationship will get stronger and you will find a better out lit to show off.. I do no that there are lady like you that need to show off you might wont to look into a adult sites to show off you body but not get tempted to stray away from you man.. i hope this helps..
2006-08-26 04:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN, you NEED to talk to a psychologist. It sounds like you are setting yourself up to fail, because you don't want to be commited to somebody....my guess is somebody hurt you very early and you dont want to get hurt again.
If you won't see a psychologist, than DO NOT have an exclusive boyfriend, just DATE, but no commitments.
2006-08-26 04:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want your cake and Ice Cream to.You want both worlds.But you can't have it like that.Eathier you want to be faithful and committed to him or you need to let him move on.It's not fair for him when you play mind games on him.No one likes games.Your a big girl now you know what you want.If it's not him let him move on and you have your fun but not at his expense.And remember games like showing yourself to people or men can get you hurt or even rapped by people who can't handel those games be careful and take care of you.Good Luck.
2006-08-26 04:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by endigogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and life in general is a cure for that.
Sooner or later what comes around goes around.
One day you will be tossed aside, feeling old, ugly, and alone.
Like a used condom tossed in the toilet.
2006-08-26 04:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wanting your cake and eat it to. There can't be that much love for your boyfriend, that is why you can't commit to him. When you do truly fall in love you won't want to be with anyone else.
2006-08-26 04:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do you agree you are selfish? Do agree you are a sl*t?
My advice is to for you to change. If you can't change, then I wish you and your boyfriend well.
2006-08-26 05:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well frist of all god made 1 man for 1 woman and you should not be showing yourself to guys.....if you relly love your boyfriend you wouldnt be with other guys to...so my advice to you is go to church, give your heart to god and get rid of all the guys....
2006-08-26 04:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋