Help needed with my friend's mom!?

Question

I was at my friend Tamara's house yesterday. Her family is very Christian and usually nice. Her mom overheard me say "b***sh**" and swatted my behind with a wooden spoon and said I should watch my language when I am a guest in someone else's home. I was so startled I said the "s***" word and she swatted me again. I told her she had no right to do that and she was like well I am lucky I am not her daughter otherwise she would "tan my bottom and wash out my mouth with soap." So I said well I am glad you're not my mom. Then she asked me to leave until I learn some manners and respect and she called my Dad and told him I was rude and need more discipline. She also told my Dad I dress inappropriately, like my jeans and tops are too tight. Now I am grounded tonight and tomorrow afternoon...which is harsh!. My Dad wants me to apologize to her. I am thinking maybe but she should apologize to me too? I really like Tamara and want to be able to go over there sometimes and not have it be weird

Answer 1

You should apologize for using that kind of language because you shouldn't use that kind of language. Furthermore it was completely inappropriate to use that language in your friend's home. Finally, it reflects poorly on you.

People who swear excessively or needlessly TEND to be insecure or are trying to be shocking or are trying to affect a certain level of perceived maturity.

Now, for her part, your friend's mother should NOT have swatted your bottom, let alone twice. Your father should have made an issue of that. However, she had every good reason to kick you out of her house.

Regardless of whether or not she apologizes, you should apologize. Beyond that, please recognize that you would do yourself a much better service by teaching yourself to communicate sans expletives. Expand your vocabulary.

Answer 2

Well in all truth you were RUDE. You should have manners in some ones home. You are a guest in that home, respect that. As far as the mother attacking how you dress that is none of her business. Your parents have no trouble in how you dress it is not her place to judge that. I do believe you owe her an apology, and I do believe you will have to except the fact that she most likely will not apologize to you. But if you friendship with Tamara is important to you you will be able to except that. You must remember if your dis-respecting Tamara's mother it will reflect on Tamara.

Answer 3

You were in a way rude by sayin "well i am glad you're not my mom".It will make anyone really ANNOYED!But then again, i cannot blame you because she 'swatted ur behind' with a wooden spoon.

But considering ur age difference i think U should appologize to ur friend's mom. And dont stop going there coz that will be like losin to her something and also it might hurt ur friend as well. So just make sure that you be careful around her mom..........if u want to avoid getting ur bottom TANNED!!!

Answer 4

Both of you need to apologize. If you apologize, most likely she will. I don't swear when I am over a friend's house because I don't want an adult overhearing me. But if that happens, respect the parent's opion and understand that it is in fact their house. You are a guest and should be on your best manners.

Answer 5

First off all if you where my daughter nobody spanked you. You don't have to apologize. When she thinks that correcting somebody should be by spanking than she is the rude one. And I also think you still could be friends with Tamara 'cause it isn't her fault.

Answer 6

My suggestion...You should apologize to your friends mom. When you are at your friends house show some respect for her & her mom by keeping it clean. Try not to sat those kinds of words while you are around her mom or evern altogether.

Answer 7

You were in her house and you have to respect her rules. Apologize to her and stay out of her "holy" house.

Answer 8

OWW