We r mailing each other since one and a half months, it was me first who brought the topic of marriage but negatively, so that there shouldn't be any misunderstanding. But though not directly, indirectly he wrote many a times that he is mine & that i am the only girl in his life that he is attached to. Then one day, in some of our chatting session, he asked me what would be my answer, if he asks me for marriage. When i said yes, he silently avoided the whole topic & is still mailing me everyday. We r posing to be good friends, even i asked him directly many times, but neither he confirms it properly, nor does he deny. Does he love me or just enjoying the whole game ?
2006-08-26 04:23:31 · 24 answers · asked by Tiya B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know your age.. but men are all about the chase and game so be careful.. if you are not seeing each other and this is not a real relationship one cannot do it on the computer... you have to really know someone to have a true and lasting relationship.. it is not built on letters words are easy actions harder.. be very careful just live your life and enjoy it or you will have really lost years or months... go after someone who is available .. close to you where you can meet and get to know one another... God bless you ..
2006-08-26 04:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, ye children of the electronic age who think that you can fall in love with someone electronically.
Short answer: you are NOT the only girl in his life; he is not attached to you nor you to him; he does not want to marry you (and if he does, run for your life) and yes, he is just enjoying the whole game.
As convenient as online "dating" may be, it's not going to deliver artificially what isn't happening naturally. Comfortable relationships are what will survive and getting comfortable is something best accomplished slowly, platonically and offline.
On-line communications lack almost everything - they lack spontaneity...there is no give-and-take where you can react immediately. When you converse on-line, you get to look at your words and see if you are responding to the other person (or, conversely, if you are being safe and responding but hiding from that person). When you converse on line, you get to contemplate what you say and craft it. That is just not what happens in person to person conversations and that is exactly what tells you what another person is like - how they respond to you when they don't have time to think about it.
What you miss in on-line conversations is body language, voice inflection, hand gestures, pauses....all the things that communicate who and what about a person. They say that a conversation is less than 20% verbal - - - that, in fact, most of the information that gets communicated in a conversation is communicated non-verbally. So you have allegedly fallen in loe with someone based on even less.
Even if that is true - that you love him - do you think that is wise ? And what, really, do you think the chances are that you love someone whom you have never actually met ?
Stop searching for love on line and go out and MEET people. And let them meet you.
2006-08-26 11:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever met him in person? If not, why are you considering marrying somebody you have never met in person and even if you have, why are you considering marrying somebody you have only known a month and a half? I'm a guy and he may have asked the question to see if you were getting too close too fast. If I were you, I would take a step back here, actually find a way to meet him in person and spend time with him in person. I think you are moving way too fast here for an on-line relationship.
2006-08-26 11:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not met him before,I suggest you forget about the whole thing and move on.
If you have,then I'm telling you this guy does love you but marriage is definitely not his way of showing you how much he loves you.
I'm giving you 2 options because I don't quite understand it when you say you have been mailing him for 1 & a half mth.
Good Luck!
2006-08-26 11:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should think about marriage after month and a half of emailing.
Marriage is the institution through which people join together their lives in emotional and economic ways. It confers rights and obligations with respect to raising children, holding property, sexual behavior, kinship ties, inheritance, emotional intimacy, health care, and love. It is the most important decision in your live.
2006-08-26 11:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just enjoying the whole game... asking you about marriage (which he knows thats the thing that you want) then avoiding you its obvious that he's just playing with your emotions .. have you met him in person? if not, then it's not a real relationship you're into... if he really loves you & that watever he told you is true atleast if he ask you to marry him, he'll ask you in person & not through mail so in that way you can see how truthful he is... 'coz sometimes guys do say things to us to that they don't really mean... they say those words 'coz thats they think we wanna hear or to shut us up....
2006-08-26 11:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Tiya,
As per what you have said it showes that he is just passing time with your feeling . Try to control your feeling and stop porpoising from your end and then sea weather he is coming up with the same statement about marry or not . Just wait for some time and watch and let me know .
2006-08-27 02:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by sanjay j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have not met him and he proposed you, you should think that this is not the way to propose anyone.......if he really had a soft corner for your love and he really cares for you, then he should not ignore our answer. So, it is all clear that he is playing a game with you and you should give up this relationship!!! 'coz if you continue with this relationship it will be a bit difficult for you to accept the hardness later. Rest is upto you...............ALL THE BEST!!!!
2006-08-27 00:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by amrita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were the first one to raise the topic of marriage negatively,it seems you are also playing games as he is playing. Tit for tat-carry on.
2006-08-26 11:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by anil m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may like you; but be afraid of or unsure of the "M" word. Try asking questions that would help him consider the responsibilities of marriage--that is if you are interested in that too. If not.......make it clear that you are: "just friends."
Good luck!
2006-08-26 11:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋