i need some really, intelligent, creative, and sneaky people....?

Question

'm 14, and my gf is 16. i know plenty of you will say that we're not in Love, and i can't MAKE you think any different. i do Love her, however, with all my heart. she is my sunshine.
i am determined to stay in contact, however, her parents hate my guts, do not allow us to talk, and don't want either of us to have any sort of relationship until we're at least 18. (obviously, we're already past that.)
fun part is(well, not really), they're fixing to move to the opposite side of the state. any calls we could possibly make will be long distance- so would show up on the bill. we don't really know how to get away wit communication at this point. any brilliant ideas?!?

Additional Details

9 minutes ago
sorry i didn't mention... emails can be checked, even if deleted- if you're good, you can still get them.
and yes- it shows all calls on the phone bill... received and sent. a text message would show the number sent from, and that would be HOT WATER for her.

they will monitor snailmail. yes, it is romantic, however, they will not give her something with my return adress on it. if it had no return adress, they will demand to see what it is.

5 minutes ago
we've already tried mail to an extent. see, mail is solid, and they can read anything you write.

we've thought of buying a phone on OUR line, then we would pay for the bills. that's the best so far- but man- if she got caught...
phone cards MAY work, but that could get expensive.

1 second ago
IM's nice, but we've gotten caught with it several times. her mom will be fixing to walk by- so she'll close out the box real quick. course, then, her mom goes "what was that?"
"nothing."
"LET ME SEE..."

you can see how that goes.

and to be honest... her parents hate my guts because they think we're too young for any kind of relationship, and they found us making out in a dark room some where... help any??

Answer 1

Buy a calling card. Use a different email address with code names and words. It's not that hard. If you love each other you will find a way. Where did they grow up that they think you are too young??? You could also get a friend say a female friend to call for you so if they answered they wouldn't know.

Answer 2

Get a calling card and the calls will not show up on the phone bill. You can call from a payphone, too, with the calling card. If you do some research, phone cards are cheaper than most plans on a regular phone. The ones from Costco are the best I have found but there are other deals, too. You could also maybe get a PO box of your own to send or receive mail. They are usually about 20 dollars per year.

Answer 3

hmm...that was really tough..but you know what, I have a boyfriend when I was 16 and he was the same guy i date until now..we're almost 5 yrs now. and way back in high school, my parents were as strict as well when it comes to relationships, but i guess i'm still lucky bec. they still respect my privacy...well, you could try having a different name and gender on ur email,by that i mean you hide your identity with a girl's name, so that your girl's parents won't be suspicious when you're exchanging emails or IMs... And who told you that messages in the 'sent items' can still be viewed by her parents? Unless, your girl don't erase it! the same with the 'trash' folder. obviously, that's where all the erased messages in the sent folder go. So delete it too! and when we're on a date, our friends help us by tagging along with us so that my parents won't be suspicious. And when he call me at home, it was our girl friend or her sister who call, so that my parents won't be suspicious. But when i got the phone, his sidster or our girl friend will pass the phone to my boy friend! If you really love her and she's the sunshine of your life, then do anything, all the possible things (and the seemingly impossible too), though hard, so that you two will be able to prove to them that you're responsible enough to be trusted to have a relationship.. And one more thing, you're still young, just enjoy every moment, and obstacles that comes. It's still a long way to earning people's trust, especially your girl's parent's.
goodluck!

Answer 4

Okay, well, as a parent I'm thinking that you might want to go out on a limb and just respect the parents here... you know... obey them and all... but... as long as you're not sneaking to MEET in person and all you want to do is stay in touch... even as a parent of seven, I see no real harm.

However... your first order of business should be to figure out why it is that her parents hate you and then correct the problem. Are you pushing her for sexual behaviors? Encouraging her to do drugs or something? Does spending so much time with you cause her to tube her grades or chores or something? See if you can find a way to work on improving their view of you.

Now... consider that if her parents have unlimited long distance (as I do) then each call is not individually noted on the bill.

E-mail accounts are private so unless you guys have parents who know your passwords, I'm not clear on how that could be a problem. If they do have your passwords, then consider opening a Yahoo or HotMail account (free... choose new passwords that they wouldn't guess.)

Above all, do NOT do anything that would put her in "hot water" with her parents because that will just destroy her feelings for you over time and it will certainly not help her relationship with her parents.

Sometimes the reason parents "hate" a certain bf/gf is just because that person seems to be tearing their child away from them. The bf/gf that I have liked the most for my children have been the ones who encouraged them to be close to me and their sibs/family. (Like my daughter's bf who asks before they leave for a date "Did you unload the dishwasher? Is there anything else your mom needs you to do before we leave?" and the girl my son dated who would tell him "Don't be upset with your mom... she's got her reasons for telling you no on that...")

The ones I didn't like were the ones who encouraged my kids to lie to me, sneak about, break the house rules, and who tried to engage them in behaviors that they wouldn't normally be a part of with their influence. They never lasted long...

Okay, I'm reading your additions here... and I can tell you that I wouldn't appreciate any guy who was in the dark groping my 16 year old daughter, no matter what his age. Sorry... but in their eyes, you don't have appropriate respect for their child. I would have to agree. The two of you need to work on other aspects of your relationship and leave the physical stuff alone til you're a bit older and understand the full impact it's having on each of you at this point. Risky business too... especially for the parents of a 16 year old girl.

Answer 5

Age may be an issue for you guy but here goes: I f you both have jobs, get cell phones or prepaid cell phones. Get post office boxes and use snail mail. Mail letters to another persons home. Find someone you guys know with unlimited long distance who will let you talk.

Sorry there aren't many sneaky things you can do due the fact of your age. Not making light of your situation either, but your 14, there will be so many other girls.

Answer 6

If you can afford it yourself buy a trackphone they are cheap like 20 dollars and you'll have to buy some minutes and if you are allowed to talk to her by your parents then get her the phone . Its just an idea. or maybe she can sneak to a pay phone and call you, she'll need a phone card though cause that is expensive to be putting quarters in..well good luck with the communication prob. and the parent prob.

Answer 7

Okay have one of her friends from where you live start writing her. After a few times then tell her you want to start putting your letters in there using her address. Plus change your IM or get another one and make it look like your a girl that she talks to. But worse case scenario is that if you two really want to be together just wait till her parents say it is okay and don't go and do any thing foolish, just be patient

Answer 8

Create a MySpace man, the cheapest (free) and easiest way to stay in global contact with anyone. Just don't show the URLs to her parents because they could possibly read your comments.

Also, make an Instant Messaging screen name and give it to her. You could talk for hours without wasting a cent.

Stay away from cellis, home phones and pay phones. They will rack up a huge phone bill.

- Thanks for the points man.

Answer 9

OK,i can see that you really love her.why do her parents hate you?do they have a motif?or they are overprotected with their daughter?i recommend you and your girlfriend to have an honest conversation with them.maybe they will not understand at the beginning ,but at least you will make them think seriously at this.the problem is that you are very young and parents are wiser and more experienced,but sometimes they exagerate.don't they trust their daughter?if you really love each other you will find a solution.i'm sure.i wish you all the luck in the world!

Answer 10

Go to the local library- tell your parents that it's to study. Open a new email account and write to her from there. You could also access this account from friends' houses, school, etc. If your gf were to do the same, this may just work.