Would you feel bad and less attractive if....?

Question

I have an identical twin sister (23 y/o) and she's more girlish and dresses sexier than me. One day we both planned to go to a bar (but she lives with mom and I live with my father) so we had to encounter at this place. And when we both reach the place I found out she wore high heels and had a much sexier and girly look than me (I was wearing flats and baggy pants). At this moment when our friends started to arrive, she grabbed all the attention, the boys (and girls too!) wanted to talked and sit to near her... Is it because she looked taller wearing heels? I think she looked great (she has this black strappy heeled sandals)... Later that day I talked about that to my sister and the only thing she said to me was "...sis... you are identical to me... the only difference is the you're not empowered by heels ... try them ... and discover this power..."

Is she right? What do you think?

Answer 1

The is really within you. Its up to you how you use it.

However I think a smart pair of heels can focus your inner power. They can help change your outlook if you let them. And in that sense they are empowering.

Take her advice. Give them a try! Play dress up with some borrowed clothes and shoes and have some fun! Maybe it will help focus your inner power. Or maybe you will decide you do not that kind of attention.

Answer 2

You are looking identical, so I can tell you for sure that her power is not in the looks, also she might think so.....The fact is that she was wearing clothes and shoes that would make her look just the way she wanted to appear in front of the others, she was who she wanted to be and that gave her a lot of confidence, I bet.....You know, people like to be around people who are self confident ;)
You, on the other hand, saw your sister, and the way she was dressed and you thought that she is more girlish and sexier than you are.....even if the others did not probably....You know, being sexy and girlie is more about the attitude, not about the look.....If it were about the looks, than you would have noticed boys would have been sitting around here more, but , as you also said, girls did that too....That was the power of self confidence, not the attractiveness of the sexy heels.....
However, I believe that you were more interested in boy's opinion not in girl's....and if wearing high heals and sexy clothes, makes you feel better and be more confident about you....than maybe you should do it.....but if they do not represent who you are,. than I guess you should let the others know you the way that you really are....they will love you...trust me :)
You just have to find out who you are...and you have to learn to love yourself!........I'm sure you are a great person :)

Answer 3

Would I feel bad and less attractive....probably (I'm only human!) Should you = no!

Your sister is partly correct in saying "you are identical to me". Clothes can give a great first impression but at the end of the day if you think your sister looks great someone else thinks you look great too.

On the other hand I think it's important to note that it isn't really the heels that empower her, it's her confidence. Part of her sexiness will definitely come from that. You need to remember that you can be the centre of attention too and just try to go out, smile and have fun. The confidence and sexiness will grow from there.

Oh and from a guys perspective, heels do look sexy.

Answer 4

i don't think it's just the heels.
i've learned that the nicer you dress, the more confident you feel, because you feel/know you look good, so you're more apt to be outgoing if you feel comfortable with yourself in public. when you arrived at the restaurant and saw how dressed up she was, you were probably immediately discouraged, and right then you became less socially confident. therefore, it was easy for her to take all the attention, (Even though she probably didn't do so intentionally).
try making more of an effort when you go out because not only will you feel better about yourself, but the impressive reaction that you get from others will help too! (and even if they don't say anything, sometimes you can just tell by the looks in their eyes that they admire the way you look).
this all probably sounds really shallow, but there's this italian poem (which is sooo true) that talks about how you first fall in love with your eyes and then with your heart.
(at least for the most part of the human race because we too are animals attracted to others because of appearance just like birds display their feathers, etc.)
i hope i don't sound too shallow...
:(

Answer 5

Yeah, I suppose in this scenario I would feel a bit bad, or embarrassed perhaps. However, she made a statement, but was very very nice about it. She didn't say anything negative, about what you wore or anything, and accepted your wordrobe of choice. She accepts your individuality, and respects it. Her statement reveals her politeness, and her attitude shows confidence. I beleive, she would like to see you with this confidence and attitude to look good, feel great, and enjoy life for all that it has to offer. She is actually giving you a gift of insight, and knows it's still your choice what you do with it, but hoping you will look with more openess, for what she beleives is within you, if you would just take the chance. I'm sure something that would defenitely spark her up, is if you called her, and asked her to help you pick out new outfits for the new make-over you've put off way too long. She would probably be estatic! I think it would be an eventful day, with a lot of laughter, fun, and a memory to last a lifetime. I'd say the future looks pretty bright for your outing events, and will defenitely enhance interest in all aspects. Hope that helps, good luck, and may your sister relationship be enhanced to a wonderful friendship as well. Don't forget the camera/s moments like these are so rare for some. What a wonderful opportunity for you to collect photos of special moments to add to, each others photo album, or the scrapbooking quality time ahead. Thanks for sharing, and thanks for asking.

Answer 6

Heels is the answer to most, but the question is how do u feel about you. Doesn't look at if your self imagine is healthy especially when it comes to your sister. You may be apart of twin, but don't try to be like your sister, do you if you feel you can or want to improve on the way you dress do that but not because your sister gets more attention when she dresses "sexy'. You will be fighting a losing battle if you take that route.

Keep your head up.

Answer 7

Yeah girl....
Your sister is right... Men tend to give more attention (so then more oportunities for a job, a couple, an assistant, etc) to girls that look sexy and girly..
Years ago I had friends that were not very girlie... never wore heels (only tomboy shoes) and by the way they were pretty smart... but they could not grab many attention from anyone...so they couldn't get a good job.... and not a very attractive partner..
So it's not about wearing ultra sexy stripper shoes... but to show a feminine side.. and everything will flow easier...
Good luck... don't your sis to leave you aside in your life...

Answer 8

You have an identical- physically similar person as a sister BUT not similar persona so I would suggest that if you wanted to change your looks- go for something you are comfortable with. Not just something people are comfortable seeing you on with. Your dress should accentuate your lovely features. Perhaps you could wear a nice dress instead of pants, wear light make up too in several occasions and a visit to a make-over salon will do a lot of enhancing your appearance. - [e-mail]

Answer 9

Not really, heels are really not good for your feet, u will find out
when u get older.
She probably got more attention cause she had a dress on.
Dresses tend to get men's attention quicker.
Dont worry, Just love your sister,and the cards will turn and
you will get all the attention and she will ask the same question.

Answer 10

The answer to this question is :

"Do you crave the attention she was getting"?

Do you envy her because she was getting noticed?

If so, then you know what to do. Besides, a lot of guys have a fantasy about getting "Hot twins" .

The reason why you aren't "sexing it up" is most likely because of whom you live with. - Your mom is probably (think about it.. come one) more likely to emphasize femininity than your father will!

:-)

Maybe ya'll should switch places.

Or better yet. Move out of your parents homes?

23 years old?
Move in with your sister in your own place..