My best friend just told me she was gay and even though we're not as close as we were I'm still worried about her. She told me and my present best friend that she loved us. What should I do and say to help her?
2006-08-26 03:59:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her to turn to God and the Bible for help to overcome this temptation.
2006-08-26 04:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well, when she said she loves u she may not have meant it the way u think. U have to ask her how she meant it, plus she knows u two are not gay so why would she step to the two of u like that anyway?
U can'yt always assume that gay people are after u sweetie, ur a little on the defensive side if u do.
I'm sure it was hard for her to tell u that she's gay and that she loves u, because she knows that she'a gonna be judge by everything she say and do around u
U have to keep loving her as a FRIEND and not think ur gonna become gay if and when ur around her( she's not trying to make u gay she just want u to remain her friend and accept her for who and what she is. She's already gonna have to deal with others giving her a hard time, the one MAIN thing all gays want is for they're family and friends to love & accept them, because anyone else outside that it doesn't matter once they know the family and friends are still in they're corner and love them others can go to hell.
So if ur a true friend then her being gay should n't matter( Im sure u were shock when she told u she 's gay) but get past it and keep being her friend
2006-08-26 12:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but one of my best friends is gay, too. She told me she loved me, but she knows I am not gay. We love each other as friends only. I still do tings with her and other friends. I see her as a person and don't care how she likes her sex. She is and always will be one of my best friends. I support her when she needs it during her relationships. She can be hurt by a woman the way I can be hurt by a man - there really isn't any difference when it comes to feelings. Just treat her as your friend and accept her as she is. Be there for her when she needs to talk. She is still the same person inside.
2006-08-26 11:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being her friend - simple as that.
If, when she said she loved you and your present best friend, she meant romantic love, leave it be for now. There's no need to confront that issue unless it persists.
In the meantime, just support her as you always have. Be one of the people she can trust and confide in. She's the same person she always was, and as long as you each respect one another you should have no problems as a result of her sexuality. If you're uncomfortable discussing especially "sensitive" topics like sex, simply tell her you have no problem with her lifestyle, but you're not entirely comfortable hearing all the details.
2006-08-26 11:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just need to sit her down and have a long conversation with her. Make her see that you only have feelings for males and not the same sex. If she is gay and doesnt have feelings for guys, then she shouldnt expect that u have feelings for girls if u r straight. You cant change her and she cant change u....she needs to understand this. Explain that u are happy she has found out who she is and that she will always b a gr8 friend.Did she mean she loves u as a friend or lover?
2006-08-26 11:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have gay friends and we love each others like sisters. You worry to much, because she would never make a move on you. Your friend won't make a move, because she knows you are not interested. Don't worry, you are save. Enjoy your friendship.
2006-08-26 11:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still be good friends with her. She knows that you are not, so if she has accepted the fact that she is gay, she will look for friends and more in other people.
2006-08-26 11:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by busyfingers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't treat her like she's the devil and don't feel like she's going to start making-out with you in a few minutes. She's confound in you and you have to respect that it is a very hard thing to come out of the closet (I know, I'm still in it). Don't give her the cold shoulder. Treat her the same way you've been treating her before she told you.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-26 11:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by ozzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oddly enough- both of my best girlfriends have had girlfriends. Now, if she means she loves you guys as friends, thats great you have a good friend there. Now if she is "in love" with both of you, thats a problem.
Otherwise, all you need to do to help her is tell her you love her too and support her in her life.
2006-08-26 11:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by kermit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell her that it is cl she can be watever she wants to be like u can but if u arnt gay then tell her that u love her to just not like that just as a sister not as a partner and tell yur other friend the same thing and to tell u some ppl go through stages like that it is nowrmal just keep her as yur friend she needs u more now than she ever has or will
2006-08-26 11:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by loganlovesgod 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to GROW UP , so she loves you ,does not me she wants to do you. GEEZUS she is your friend and before you found out she was gay you enjoyed her company and you trusted her so whats changed ? simple answer is she trusted in your friendship enough to share her life style with you and you pay her back by freaking out and thinking OMFG she wants to sleep with me now WRONG ASNWER she enjoys being with you and sharing her life with you as a friend NOT a lover . So why freak out ! I have gay guy friends and I was like So doesnt bother me that you are gay ... and they where like wow man I thought you would freak , NO I dont care what they do with their lovers IF I am not their lover.
2006-08-26 11:09:48 · answer #11 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋