I'm a nerd!!!! Need help!!!?

Question

I'm really geeky and no one wants to be around me even though they haven't even spent the time to talk to me. How can I change my wardrobe, looks, and lonliness? I still want to be smart; but cool too. HELP!!!

Answer 1

Start giving oral sex to all the dudes. Then you'll be "that whore" not "that nerd". Problem solved.

Answer 2

You must have an image in your head of the person you want to be; simply start moving in that diection.

Start by going through your wardrobe and separate your clothes, putting the items you'll keep in the front and working yur way back to the stuff you'll eventually toss. (Can't start out tossing everything - an entirely new wardrobe is expensive.) Go shopping, if you have the money, and select carefully. Some items, styles and colors never go out of style - they may not be "of the moment," but they're always acceptable and can be paired with more trendy styles. Don't go overboard on current trends unless you have an inexhaustible cash supply. Observe the people around you for ideas if you lack fashion sense or style.

Next, examine your skin care and makeup regimen. If you don't know how to apply your makeup well, learn. Pickup a fashion magazine like Cosmo to learn how to select the right products, colors and applications for your face and current styles.

Take a look at your hair and decide if you're happy with it. If you're not, take yourself to a salon. Consult a beautician for suggestions. S/he knows what the current trends are, what style(s) will work best given the shape of your face and the grade of your hair. Consider color and/or highlights if they're suggested. While you're at the salon, get yourself a manicure and/or pedicure.

Having done all this, you should look the part. Putting yourself together on the outside is the first step, but you have to put yourself together on the inside as well: project confidence with good posture, chin up, and an easy step. Look people in the eyes and smile as you go by. Don't be afraid to say hello and/or make small talk with anyone, and don't be discouraged if the reception is not as warm as you'd hope right off the bat. Give people a chance to notice the new you.

Most importantly: stay true to yourself. Like I said at the start, you should have an image of the person you want to be, don't try to be someone you think other people want you to be - it won't work.

Ever seen My Fair Lady or Now Voyager? You dilemma reminds me of both of them. It's too bad you haven't got a Henry Higgins next door. Good luck!

Answer 3

This is too much to answer in a question however. Wardrobe wise change your look from geeky to preppy. Always works, unless you live in like a ghetto ish place. I can't help you there. Get a straightener and do your hair in the morning. Talk to people and don't be afraid to be outgoing and fun. However don't make people feel uncomfortable.

Answer 4

Which is it popular or nerd? Don't listen to the first answerer unless you are wanting to dress like a man. What is it with every girl (almost) these days and wearing men's clothes and shoes? I don't get it. Somewhere did parents stop teaching a girl should be feminine and dress accordingly? What happened to high heels and stillettos? Skirts? Dresses? Hair fixed? Nice make up? It is like no one these days cares what they look like. Wake up girls! Act and dress like a girl!

I'm more than will to help you out if you'll add to this question with this:
Are you a nerd or popular? It doesn't go both ways. Pick one and I have tons of advice if you're a nerd.

Answer 5

First of all it doesn't matter how you look, that doesn't make you cool. Knowing and liking who you are is the key. If you are comfortable with yourself people will see that. No one wants to be around someone with low self esteem. Work on that first. And there is nothing wrong with being a nerd, Look at Bill Gates!

Answer 6

Aww hun this is something that I hate to hear. Popluar people are not good friends well at least most of them. I was one of those rude people. BUt I will give you some help so you will fill pretty for yourself.

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Ok one of these polos I perfer the first plain one in any color. Then put it over a basic cami. Try to get one that matches the color of the butterfly in the corner of the polo. Then put it with a pair of Abercombie jeans. They are sort of expensive but worth it cause they are mad comfy and last for ever!!!!

Ok hair time!!
Try brushing back your hair just the very middle of the top. Then put a baret or bobbypin in. Then you have a cute classy yet casual look

Now for the lonliness. Ok find some people that like what you like. Try talking to some of them. Get to know them.

Answer 7

You think you'll be accepted even when you try and blend in. Here's a small story that is told to people like this

The crow found a few peacocks feathers and plucks it in to his tail feathers and then leaves crow community telling them he doesnot belong here and flies over to the peacock's and they throw him out at the very first instance. He returns back but to find out that they don't want him anymore.

So try making an impression of what you are and not what others want you to be.

I was never a popular guy at school or college (hardly anybody noticed me) but I can say durring my 5 year school reunion I was the most successful in life from the batch.

Answer 8

Knowledge is power, therefore do some research, and find out what is the most interesting topics, events, movies etc...to give you so commonality to share in discussions with others. Show confidence with the knowledge you've researched and don't hinder yourself from jumping right in to a topic being discussed. Share your likes, dislikes etc. To give yourself an extra boost to make yourself feel better, to the girl thing, hair, make-up, style that is most comfortable for you. Most importantly, be yourself. Hope that helps, good luck!

Answer 9

You are not a nerd. There is nothing wrong with acting like an intelligent human being. Looks, fashion and trends are so overrated. Be true to yourself and like yourself for who you are. Do you not think there are other people out there with similar personalities? People who base friendship on hairstyle and make up are superficial and fake. Do you want to be a fake? You can't go around trying to please everyone to make a true friend. True friends will like you for who you are, not how you dress! Popularity is for the truly lonely people who follow trends and try to be like everyone else. Do you want true friends that are loyal or do you want superficial friends who will stab you in the back and rate you based on the brand of your shirt?

Answer 10

Change your perception of the world. Yes, looks and fashion are important but they're not the primary decider of how many friends you have. It's about what you do, where you go and how you talk to people.

You've used the word "dork" in several of your answers to other people. Don't you think maybe you should stop thinking in such black and white terms?

Answer 11

Just because no one wants to be around you , doesn't mean you're a nerd. I think you should spend some time pampering yourself - get a manicure, a new hair style, and some new clothes. If you wear glasses, try contacts. If all else fails, tell anyone who calls you names to just "Back off!" Good luck!