He cheated on me before we got married, and has told me recently that he wouldnt ever call this girl again, but did. I dont know what to do.
2006-08-26 03:45:16 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is currently deployed at this time and due back in a like 2 weeks
2006-08-26 03:53:03 · update #1
Tough one.
If you can, take a step back. Relax and breathe.
Wait until he gets home for a while. And then, when you're calm, ask him about it.
If he's in harm's way everyday, he may be thinking, what the hell-- I may be dead tomorrow.
It doesn't make it right, of course, but it does give you some perspective.
Wait until you hear his answer before you decide what to do. If he's defensive, you've got your answer.
Whether you stay or leave is up to you.
We train men how to treat us. Just keep that in mind.
Good luck.
2006-08-26 04:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation with my wife. She had affairs with co workers in the past and I have been seeing they are still calling each other. I confronted my wife about this a few months ago and it seemed to stop. Just recently I see there was contact again, but he is using a different phone number because he must know that I told my wife that this was completely unacceptable to me. As it stands now I'm waiting for the next cell bill to come so I can see if its still going on. If it is, then its showing me so much disrespect that will file for divorce this time. They can have each other, she is becoming not worth the efforts I have put into our marriage to heal and move on with our lives.
2006-08-26 11:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? How many times has he called her? Do you know what they've been talking about? If he hasn't given you any reason not to trust him since you two got married, than I wouldn't worry too much. Talk to him, get all the facts, ask him why. And then take it from there. It doesn't mean he's cheating on you, but I can't blame you for worrying. How forthcoming he is with the details will tell you; if he isn't very, then he's hiding something, but he comes right out and tells you point blank than chances are good you have nothing to worry about.
2006-08-26 10:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u have trust issues. If u cant trust him, then im sure ur left wondering all the time especially now u have caught him out. I think hes keeping u in the dark and either needs to get serious with u and cut the crap or end it. Dont let him walk all over u, believe in urself and what u deserve. Love urself!
2006-08-26 10:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married him AFTER he cheated on you?? Yeah right. Honey, it was over before it got started!
2006-08-26 11:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by fl_sun_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him to show you his phone, his computer, and his emails to see if something is going on. What explanation did he have for you as to why he was talking to her?
2006-08-26 10:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not making him happy if he has to talk to other females he has had been with in the past -- ask him how can you make him happy? and tell him if he wants her then to leave and go with her
2006-08-26 17:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by whom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you can trust your mate, a marriage is doomed. Can he be trusted? If not, divorce.
2006-08-26 10:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he lied to you about calling her, what else is he doing? If you can not trust him, you should not be together.
2006-08-26 10:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋