I am married and have a nice life with our family. The only problem is that my husband is Brittish (not a bad thing), and I am not. We have different expectations from marriage. I want to be happy and in love, not just be married. He doesn't understand the difference.
2006-08-26 02:14:07 · 24 answers · asked by his girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He won't change, you won't change, either live with it or move on. I think you've been reading too many romance novels!
Reality of a relationship is you enjoy each other's company, support each other, and if you're lucky occasionally have good sex. The rest of the happiness in your life you have to make happen ON YOUR OWN!!
2006-08-26 02:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I don't understand. You said you want to "be happy and in love," but he doesn't? I don't think he wants to be miserable with you-have you tried to express to him what would make you happy?
I think the hardest thing to do is express in words what it is we want in a relationship. If we're not specific, however, it makes it tough for someone to give us what we need. For instance, you say you want to be "in love"-what makes you feel "in love"-is it the giddy feeling you used to get while dating when he'd call, or just wanting to hold hands, make-out, etc. like you used to? If you want these things to happen, then make it happen. Tell him your desires, ask him about his, find ways to "spice" up your relationship.
It sounds like you're having a hard time with the reality versus the fantasy of marriage (like it shows on t.v.). It's common for couples to feel this way after marriage, because they assume it will be all wine and roses day in and day out. Marriage is work-it takes two people working together to find out what makes the other tick and how to find the time for one another.
You said you have a nice family, so I assume you are happy with certain aspects of your relationship, just not with others. Be honest with him, ask him too what he wants, and work out some compromises.
Good luck!
2006-08-26 02:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Draga M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sexy the way you dress to start especially weekend wear dress or skirt and make sure that you wear a slip brittish love lace but they wont admit to it. Try to show your lace half a inche on one side of your skirt and show your lace then pretend your going to a mall or some wear and a m sure he well notify you only then but not before that your slip is showing,Just try that doesn't cost anything and it may work.Let me no if you can.
2006-08-26 03:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by beacon1mar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news!!! People are raised the way they are and are not going 2 change over night. Maybe u should go and see a marriage councilor.
2006-08-26 02:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Adonis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husban is a human. Change with human being is spice of life. Now if you are able to provide the right spice to his life your husband may remain with you unchanged. But be sure what is the spice you need to give him. A wong one will shut the door for you.
2006-08-26 02:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just have to get use to you and what your expectations are. Sometimes a good ole heart to heart is in order or maybe sometimes a third party may need to intervene to help explain to him how you feel. Counselling is not a bad thing.
2006-08-26 02:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People do change... if he loves you. Might take a lot of time but it can happen. Always put yourself in his shoes and think about it from his point of view and he should do the same. Put spice in your marriage if you keep on doing things maybe once in awhile he might surprise you.
2006-08-26 02:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by gidgetasp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is because he is British, most all men can not tell the difference. I am not picking on men here, I just think that most all of them were programed that way.
2006-08-26 02:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe more time...I'd bet you haven't been married very long. It takes times, but the key to any relationship is communication...make sure you tell me what you want...ask him what he needs as well...but communicate constantly
2006-08-26 02:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only one who you have the power to change in this relationship is you.
2006-08-26 02:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋