who i went out with b4 i was married and she told me she never married or had kids because she had only loved me.I have been married 23 years and 3 lovely kids but now i feel so guilty for ruining her life (unintentionally) I told her i was sorry but my wife was the love of my life what should i say to her???
2006-08-26 02:08:42 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jeeze, idiot, r u really that good in bed?? lol
is ur wife coming to rocky with u?
Tell her the truth, if ur wife is the love of ur life after all these years u picked the right one, its not ur fault the ex couldnt move on. Sounds a bit creepy to me to be honest. Were has she been these last 23 years? institutionalised?
2006-08-26 02:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is probably a very miserable, unhappy person. She did a good job making you feel bad and you let her know that. She can't put her never getting married on you. It is her own fault for allowing herself to remain stuck, not move on and date anyone else. You had no control over that, only she did. You have no reason to feel bad. Women use this tactic to not move on all the time. They live in a fantasy. They will even go as far to tell their self that if they keep waiting he will come back to them. Before you know it they have waited their life away. Who knows how many other men she is waiting on. She sounds like she might be a wack job at this point. You have nothing to feel guilty or sorry about.
2006-08-26 02:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no way your fault and your ex girlfriend is very wrong to push the guilt on you for how her life has turned out. We are all responsible for our own lives and if she couldn't move on then that is up to her. You did what was right at the time, and lucky you did, as you then found the love of your life. It would not have lasted with the ex for this reason - she was not the love of your life. Just think of the reasons why you finished with her in the first place to stop you feeling guilty, which you have no reason to be. I think you have to be blunt with her and tell her the reasons you broke up with her and that it is not your fault, but hers, that she was unable to get over it and get married with kids. Sounds like she is a really bitter person, and not a very nice one at that, to say that to you. Forget her and get on with being happy with your lovely wife and kids, you deserve to be happy.
2006-08-26 05:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god dis sounds tricky but for all u no she cud be lyin
ur in a happy marraige and hav a gd family - y ruin all that 4 a girl hu u dumpd b4 - shes obviousli not the 1 4 u
dont feel guilti about this its totalli not ur folt
jus try 2 ignor dis old girlfrend - dont repli 2 her messages or anyfin, but if it keeps on, i fink u shud tlk 2 ur wife, she shudnt get 2 annoyd - uve been married a long time, and she wud prefer 2 be in the know about this
good luck!
2006-08-26 02:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by beckyzbonkers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have said enough to her. Now AVOID her. She will cause you nothing but trouble.
I think a lot of us may have "loved and lost" in the past. The majority of us did not let the effects last over 20 years. AND I certainly would have never told the man involved, especially is he is married with three children.
2006-08-26 02:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe this was true ...no woman would seriously give up potential future husband and kids just in case an ex gets a divorce. That's utter rubbish. She's putting the guilt trip on you and testing to see if there's a chance of you leaving your wife for her. You haven't ruined her life, if she had an opportunity to settle down she would n't have given you a second thought, it's just that no-one has taken her fancy as much as you did.
She's needy and wants you to declare your undying love for her....don't fall for it.
2006-08-26 02:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with all these people who have been saying its not your fault. 23 years is a long time ago and if she truly regretted not being with you she would have done something ages ago because now it is obviously too late. don't blame yourself. and tell her just that. that your wife is the love of your life, and if you want to make her feel better, that you did care for her then but it was a long time back, and that you've (obviously) moved on.
2006-08-26 02:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch yourself on there boy! You are married with 3 kids. What she did with her life after you split up over 23 years ago is her problem not yours!
2006-08-26 13:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could you say you ruined her life ? you moved on she didn't, an x is an x for some reason, you chose to marry your wife , not the other person i think you are remissening about the past , everyone do , but do not feel bad by what she said , she may be living in the past but you can't blame yourself for that. you do not owe her an explanation.
2006-08-26 05:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are happy with your wife and kids and under no terms are you willing to leave them, upset them or destroy the family.
You must be firm with her, people change through the years, you both will have changed you are not the person she knew 23 years ago and either is she.
Tell her its time she moved on and wish her all the best, then cut all contact with her.
2006-08-26 04:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋