i am reading the questions here, for a while, and i see that most of the people have problems about marriage. i began to worry about future. i fear of being cheated, the most. it might be beautiful to share the life with your lover, but you should be ready to continue your life alone and strongly in case of seperation. i dont like thinking in pessimist way but we cant know what will happen in 5 years, or in 6 months...
once you get used to live with your lover, you will not want to come back your family's home again. on the other hand, reaching a complete comfort at your job, having a private home, living on, and working at your ideal job, and reaching economical comfort might take sooooooo many years :( maybe i will never be able have all these! i would like to have "marriage-type-of-relation" with my bf, but i fear.. i am confused.
what do you think about these ? how did you cope with them ?
sorry for my bad english.
thanks.
2006-08-26 01:45:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are that scared about it then you shouldn't be married. You need to work out your own problems before a huge step, or else it will end in divorce
2006-08-26 01:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by mightymight 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Life does not come with a guarantee. In every thing you do, it is a chance. You have to take it one day at a time, look to the brighter side and not dwell on the pessimist side. When you were conceived your parents took a chance you would be born, then a chance you would be a perfect little girl, when you went to school another chance was taken that you would learn and develope into a young adult. As you grow and mature all your life it will be based on chances, you can't sit back and say "should I drive to work today, I might get hit by another car" or "I like my job, but what if the company goes under, should I quit now and look for another" or " I love my BF but maybe we shouldn't get married because the divorce rate is so high". To go through life in the negative is no life at all, always look for the positive and most often that is what you will find. Good luck
2006-08-26 09:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, become proficient at English. Second, above all, go to college and get an education! Focus on what you have to do for YOU! Stop focusing on a boyfriend and, for heavens sakes, don't move in together!!! I know that part of an adult relationship is having sex but be smart and don't get pregnant. Open the door to learning functional life skills and behaviors. Have personal boundaries, figure out who you are and walk down that path with someone who has the same outlook that you do. Stay away from addictive behaviors and people who have them. Have high standards and accept nothing less. Above all, respect yourself! In the end, you will personally come out the winner no matter what life throws at you!
2006-08-26 08:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The truth of the matter is, no one can predict what the future holds for us. Everything that we choose to do comes with consequences. When I was younger I had the same fears too but I decided that I wanted to be married to my husband. You can't control what the other person will do in the future. The only control you have is over yourself and your choices. If you want to get married, do it. Just bear in mind that it comes with risks as well as rewards. If you're not ready to be married, don't. No one says you have to be. It is something you have to want to do. Either way, each choice will have it's consequences and it's up to you to decide if you can live with your choices.
2006-08-26 08:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of one day at a time. And it all depends on if you love him and he loves you and there is nothing permanent in this world. My grandparents were married of 50 yrs and when my grandpa died my grandmother was devastated. She was like a zombie. I considered leaving my husband. I couldn't see the purpose. Then I thought what else are you going to do for the next 50 yrs. I can have a career but it is not love. And love is harder to do than most people think.
2006-08-26 08:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by lisapj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is to merge to someone in love and sacrifice yourself to keep relation go on and on.And relationship becomes stronger and stronger when a baby arrives.As there is a negative aspect in each thing so in marriage.Divorce is the worst in a good deed.
2006-08-26 09:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Shahid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone worries about the future, but there is nothing we can do about it except live everyday the best we can. Being "cheated on" is not the worst thing that could happen to you in your life. Don't worry about things that aren't there yet. You'll just STRESS yourself out.
2006-08-26 08:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let these questions and answers upset you. People are going thru alot on here but that doesn't mean everyone will. Take each day at a time and enjoy life!!
2006-08-26 09:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only been married for 3 years, and have lived with my husband for 5. Love changes. When we were first dating there was passion, and all that crazy stuff you see in the movies. I still love him, it is just different. Instead of being in the movies, now life is more like a sitcom. I love him, I need him, I am still in love with him, but it is less like "Body Heat" and more like "Roseanne". Its still good, just different, and in some ways, better.
2006-08-26 08:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alice S 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-08-26 08:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Cobra 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋