Does he still love me????

Question

Me and my fiance are supposed to be getting married in december, but I went on myspace.com and accidently logged in as my fiance and not me. well i went to the notes not realizing what i had done and he had about 7 notes talking about you are so fine i want to meet you and all this and that. then i went to his outbox now knowing what im doing, and he sent all these little hoodrats messages like damn, your fine azz hell and if i was a crack addict ill be feining for your body every second and **** like that. my question, should i just let him be and go on his seperate way or should i tell him what i saw??? Help please. I dont know if i should marry him now.

Answer 1

why bother with marriage!

Answer 2

I wouldn't be too worried, but if you find a message that would have said something like, "We should meet again or thanks for a good time" then you cut the hell up!!!!! As for addressing the issue to him, don't do it. You will be ruining the chance of catching him in the act. All this is not necessary though. If you suspect him of cheating, then you take further action. Since you are questioning now whether you should marry him or not, push the date back. Now, there is a part on his page that says his status, whether he is married or not. If that little section says anything other than Married, Engaged, or Involved, you dump that @ss.

Answer 3

let me tell u if u do not know if u really want to get married to this person and after seeing that kind of stuff i would be concerned to i'll tell u somthing else too if u have these doubts u will still have them , and maybe u shouldn't get married do u think u can really fully trust him after that or are u going to be worried about it all the time , if so then do not do it they do not change w/ marriage they just become more secretive , so i would just watch his emails and things like that for awhile to find out what's really going on , if u confront him he will change the pass words and everything else and he will say i was just messing around,it don't mean nothing and you don't trust him and stuff just find out all u can with out letting him know it atleast until u get physical proof then kick him to the curb girl. i mean u can even se3t up a diffrent email account say at a friends house and talk to him if u do that make sure u have a completely diff. messenger and profile u don't want to get caught , then find out what he is really telling people about your relationship good luck , keep me posted

Answer 4

Yes he loves you. If you tell him you got into his account he might get angry and think you were checking up on him. Did you look to see where those other women were from? They might not even be in your area. Read what you wrote up there in your question. He wrote some pretty insulting things that would be a turn off to women like the part, "If he was a crack addict". Men just like attention from other women. Who knows if they all act on it or not. It is genetic and has been that way from the begining of time. Maybe you could find a subtle way to bring it up with him to see what he has to say about it.

Answer 5

He's cheating on you. Confront him about it. I wouldn't want to marry someone that was acting like that either. I'm really sorry you have to go through that, it's very hurtful. Maybe he doesn't think it's cheating since it's only words and may have no intentions of actually meeting face to face, but even over the computer, he's pursuing other women and that is not loyal to you. If you decide to work through things with him, insist on counseling so you can work through this in a healthy way. Trust is very important, and he's not acting trustworthy.

Answer 6

He probably still loves you. But men is a sexual animal and cant' resisit temptation. It was most unfortunate that you have found about it and saw the ugly side of him. Technically, he ha betrayed you by lusting over other women and flirting. He could still do this when both of you area married. Can you take this? If you dont tell him, he will still be doing this behind your back. My take is, tell him and see how he reacts to it. If he get's angry, meaning he is not guilty of his doing.

If he kept quite and apologise, it shows he felt guilt and there is till hope.

Marriage if for good and for worst, health and sickness and lasting, marry him if you only you are ready for the above.

Answer 7

I think you should tell him what you saw. Of course he will ask you how you found out about it so just tell him the truth. If you're going to be married to this guy, it's important that you get this thing cleared up or you will always be wondering about it. If you don't say anything, he may continue to do this behind your back even though you're married. It is important for you to know if you can trust him now before getting married to him.

Answer 8

he will just give you a guilt trip if you confront him .. but do you really still want to marry him after seeing that? it doesnt sound like hes marriage material.. or trustworthy *hugs* if it was me Id tell him its over and if he asks why then tell him .. see what happens..but if you decide to try to work things out you need to keep a sharp eye on him for a while at least ... good luck

Answer 9

He sounds shady, good thing you know that now, before you made it official. If I were in your shoes I'd have to be 100% convinced that the whole thing was a joke, or I'd run, not only would I not marry him, I wouldn't see him anymore.

Answer 10

Definitely talk to him about this. It doesnt look good. If hes sure why would he need them? I feel for you. Is he the right sign anyway? Firesigns need firesigns or Pisces. Read compatability books Astrology and it can help people. Good luck.

Answer 11

You should ask him does he chat with girls on line. If he says no then he's a lair and you do not want to marry to him if he cannot tell the truth. If he admits to it then you state that it is dis respect towards you and he needs to stop chatting on line with other girls. If he cannot see you point of view dump him. If he willing to chat with girls on line then he is likely to cheat on you also.