If I think that I may have done a big boo boo and hurt someone who is on another continent how best can I make things right? I can't send stuff because I don't know this persons address. Is it better to just apologise and then fade away from that person?
2006-08-26 00:39:37 · 26 answers · asked by jonny_nowhere 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Umm... who have you hurt? First you need to find out if in fact you actually hurt them. It sounds to me that you only "Think" you hurt them. If they tell you that you did, then it's best to just say sorry. It's apparent that hurting them wasn't your intention. If they are the kind of person that i think they are, I think they'll understand and everything will be fine... *BIG HUG*
2006-08-26 06:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't send stuff? What were you planning on doing - send a pretty present and expect it to all be okay?
I assume that despite the fact that you don't have an address, you do have a contact number or something. Always apologise! If you think you got it wrong, then there is no problem. It takes a big man to say 'I'm sorry.' and it is something that we should all do more often. The chances are that if you apologise, that person will be back in contact with you because most people appreciate the apology. If you don't get an answer, well at least you tried - and then you can just fade away from that person.
2006-08-26 08:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get to them in the first place to make the 'boo boo', that may be how you get to say sorry.
Pass a message through an acquaintance if possible, or even post an apology in their local media, paper, radio etc, if you know the town they live in and hope they get it.
You only fade away afterwards if thats what they want.
Good luck
2006-08-26 07:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by witchealer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't just apologise then fade away.
Honest is always the best policy. Admit that what you did was wrong. Be sincere in your apology. Ask for forgiveness and express your desire to maintain whatever your relationship was.
If the other person involved has a heart that will forgive and forget.
Good luck.
2006-08-26 07:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother. Ive been apologising to someone for the past 12 months, and although I have done nothing wrong to her, my apologies have not been accepted. Women have long memories and are unforgiving, so save your time and money.
2006-08-26 07:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologise and see where it goes from there. If the person forgives you and still wants to associate with you then great. Just make it clear how wrong you were and how sorry you are.
2006-08-26 07:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guilt has started to eat at you.
Apologise. yes, always, because it's the right thing to do.
If you want to keep the friendship then you may have weeks & months of grovelling, keep at it.
If you're not bothered about the friendship, still apologise and leave the proverbial ball in their court.
2006-08-26 07:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Melc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love means never having to say you're sorry. That doesn't mean
we never do things to be sorry for. Just that those who love us will forgive us of our transgressions.
If you can say sorry, that's cool. AA teaches about making amends. But not to do that when it might make it worse.
You got to get to know someone. And see what they like. But
this is for sure. Never beat up on YOURSELF, and get mad, and act like more of a BUTT toward the one you love. We all need to learn to forgive oursleves for being human, before we can learn to
forgive others.
2006-08-26 08:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying things to send wouldn't help anyhow, worst thing you can do to anyone is to try to buy them off by way of an apology, just be up front about your apology and just tell it how it is, I reckon you will gain more respect by been upfront and admitting your sorry, we all make mistakes, none of us are infallible are we, good luck.
2006-08-26 08:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
work out how hurt they are give them a few days too cool down...but apologise without qualifying why you did what hurt them...just ask them to forgive you and let them do so in thier time...a friend will forgive in time and you don't need to fade away just give them space if they ask for it...show understanding either way.
2006-08-26 07:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by jamie p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋