what does a man do when his wife does not understand him?

Question

I love my wife and I am ready to die for her. She chooses not to live with me in the present country where I am staying because she does not like that country. I am heart broken and at the same time if I choose to live where my wife wants us to live then I will have to sacrifice my Job / career and go back to a lower level in my job / career. This would not only affect us financial but also emotionally. At the same time I believe that once we are married we have to work our very best to save the marriage at any cost. I do not understand why she is so stubborn on this subject and will not even try to come and stay with me for at least a year and if things do not work out during that one year we could always look at alternatives.

Answer 1

You have to ask yourself a real question my friend: Is this truly the woman for you ? Do you feel that you love her more than what she displays to you ? When someone truly loves you , you never question it in your mind. A good sign of a faithful wife is one that is willing to follow the leading of her husband.

Answer 2

I understand your sacrifice and decision to leave your country in hopes to better your life in another country. Most people who do not have to deal with this will not understand our plight. I understand this sacrifice is to better your life and the life of your future family, hopefully with this woman you married and love so much. Did you discuss your goals with this woman prior to marriage? Did she know you wished to be here? Is there a reason why she does not wish to live here with you (fear of being in foreign country alone, language barrier, etc?). Leaving your own country is very difficult, but I would talk to her and ask her to give your marriage the opportunity to work out. She should at least attempt to come with you for one year. If that does not work out, the take it from there. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry honey but you have a very selfish, controlling, undeserving and feministic wife.
You sound like a great man... with no back-bone.

You didn't marry a very good woman.

All you can do is decide what you want. Do you want your woman more than your manhood, your money, your prestige, your power, your potential, your growth, your happines? Or would you rather leave the selfish lady to herself?

To me it sounds like or appears like she doesn't really love you. If she did, she'd do ANYTHING for you. I'm mean, face it, you'd do ANYTHING for her, ritght? (well, almost). She won't for you. That's pretty freakin obvious.

I would do ANYTHING for my husband, even if it was to go to the most disgusting place on earth to live. Yeah, it would suck, and I'd be pissed about the location for the benefit of the kids, but I love him and trust he'll do the very best thing for the whole family.

Good luck, sir.

Answer 4

Why does she have to be with you? Aren't you capable of taking care of yourself for awhile?

I'm going to guess that you didn't ASK her if she was going to be willing to leave friends and family...you just assumed as your wife she'd do whatever you wanted. Silly you.

You need to decide what's more important to you...being with your wife or making money. Obviously, it's your choice and your decision since she's already made hers.

Answer 5

so u shold talk to ur wife abt this again calmly n talk to her about every aspect
ofcourse u have to change ur mind
every one cannot get the best out of life
she will have to understand this

Answer 6

you should tell her how you feel and yeah you should have a back bone too. put down your foot and try to talk to her and she not going to listen then the being marry is not worst it. good luck.

Answer 7

find a new one, dump her