We recently got remarried and we are facing the same issues as before. She is blaming it on the fact that she can't "connect" with me when we have differences. what should i do? Divorce or try to trust again.
2006-08-25 22:55:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u and your wife should sit down talk to eachother about how u feel about one another
and if she is talking to ex boyfriend again most likely she has a connection with him they are conversing and planning something and most likely she is cheating
if u try to trust her it wont work because it will be in the back of ur head u wont be able to trust her completely again
so u need a seperation devorce and move on wit ur life start hanging out with yur friends taking care of u and find someone else that u could trust and be happy
2006-08-26 00:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce or try to trust again? Is that all the options you feel you have? I suggest you give your marriage some time to grow and develop. She THINKS there's no connection. My goodness, how long did you guys date? three weeks? one month? You two should know each other A LOT more than this to have her say something like that and start looking up old boyfriends!
To be honest, if I started to look up old boyfriends and write them then I would be hoping for a potential relationship with them. Sex? Maybe, but more for friendship and companionship and then if sex came along, well, then that would be convenient too. If I felt that I didn't connect with my husband it would probably be because he was either A. dumber than me B. less educated than me C. more smart than me D. more educated than me E. more mature F. less mature G. more or less religious/spiritual H. boring/can't carry on a conversation I. always has to be right and won't hear me out J. won't listen to my problems K. is more interested in his own stupid hobbies and persuits (i.e. computer, games, work, cars, etc.).
Does this help you any?
What I highly suggest for you both to do is spend some QUALITY TIME together. Go on walks and HOLD HANDS. Go to dinner and sit across from each other to see into each other's eyes and TALK AND TALK. Go shopping together. Start a project together. Take a class at college or at the community center together. Take a dance/martial arts/ sports class together. Write music together. DO STUFF TO INTERACT and get to know each other better!
Very important: YOU BOTH need to find and make things that are incommon with each other and also start forming fond memories together in order to have something to hold on to.
Maybe you can even go to church together or make dinner together.
There are millions of things you can do to be better for each other.
Also, women LOVE to be swooned over. Bring home fun flowers, buy her favorite treat and leave it on her pillow, leave sticky notes on various places where you know she'll find them later that say things like, "you're hot" and "I love you" and "I appreciate you" and "You have a sexy body" and "I'm so proud you're my wife", etc.
Compliment her, encourage her, laugh with her, cry with her, hug her, kiss her, hold her hands, BE IN TUNE with her!
If you don't do these things YOU WILL LOSE HER. Act before it's too late!
Good luck, pal. I really hope it gets better and you can win your wife back (or win her period in case you haven't already).
2006-08-25 23:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you got remarried and neither of you learned the lessons from last time? Why did you get remarried? Sit down with her and ask what reconnect means and really hear her out. Maybe you are falling into your old routine again when you promised you wouldn't. I suggest getting into counseling ASAP.
2006-08-25 22:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Persephone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you guys remarried. in a marriage there as to be true and you guys need to talk about it. and she has no business email her ex. she got remarried to you. i would leave her. how do you know she not cheating on you. but that what i think. anyway good luck.
2006-08-26 01:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married person in any relationship not totally platonic with any person except their spouse, IS cheating. Physical contact isn't necessary. Assuming she cheated before, it's likely she is shopping for fun again, or still.
2006-08-26 00:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all.
Try to be bit grown up.
Have more wisdom.
Have faith.
That's the only way.
If u keep doubting, you will lose peace.
You will not let her in peace.
Then what is the use?
If any one wants to cheat ,any way one can cheat.
You can't have check always.
Therefore have faith and rest in peace.
That's the secret of Happiness.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 23:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by idsalex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing serious dear. Be adaptable and have trust. Such silly matters are not befitting for a divorce.
2006-08-25 22:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by mkm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think excitement and romantic feelings might have dissapeared for a while. i think you should talk directly with her, i am sure she will not want to make you unhappy, her ex bf shouldnt be more precious than you. maybe you both can try to ignite the feelings again.
2006-08-26 01:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude. you just made the same mistake twice. nobody can help you. it's like the brain damaged guy in Memento who keeps shocking himself.
2006-08-25 23:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce
2006-08-25 23:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by geena_tanner 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋