To husbands how can you be the leader of your ordained family God gave you in the first place ?

Question

I want to know how a man should lead his one & only family God gave in the first place ................... like in the attitude, in commitment , in loyality , in unconditional love , in relationships and in spiritual. The secord , third , fourth , etc marriages after divorce don't counts here ........... ONLY the first one does because they are the true ones God joined together until death.

Answer 1

Let us talk candidly instead of ideally. A lot of conventional ideas about modern women have been found to be wrong in a survey conducted on 5000 couples by Universitiy of Virginia. Women love an affectionate and appreciative husband who talks to his wife, is understanding, supportive, romantic and sensitive. The husband needs to express his sincere love and tell "I can't quit you, honey!" more often.

A man should be well educated in matters of life and his profession in life, and he should earn a decent salary before he decides to marry. His wife need not work. A survey found that 52% of women who don't work outside their home are happier in marriage compared to 41% of women who work. So discard those popular ideas that woman have to work to be happy. He should not have had pre-marital flings with the opposite sex.
Attitude:
He enters the wedlock as a fully responsible indidvidual who is willing to obey the marriage vows all his life. He communicates well with his wife and treats her like a partner or friend. They both learn the meaning and art of true love from each other.

Commitment and loyalty:
They go hand in hand. Once you decide to marry someone then your whole commitment is to maintain the exclusivity of sex with your spouse. Next is the willingness to be the main provider for the family and by living within your means. Both the wife and husband should be strong willed in this economic principle and try NOT to keep up with their neighbours. Keeping EGO out of the relationship should be strongly implemented. I should make place for WE. The husband is the captain of his ship and should brave all odds and take full responsibility for all failures.

Unconditional love:
This is the bedrock of a good marriage. There are no contracts to fulfill but just one sided love irrespective of the other's condition. Hope and pray that your partner returns your favour. The emotional security of a loving husband or wife is the greatest treasure in life. Love does not depend on who washes the dishes or who trims the lawn. Forgiveness of common human failings is a must. Raising children is a huge responsibility and they should plan it well and be prepared for it before the children arrive.

Relationships and spiritual progress;
Both husband and wife should take interest in exploring their religion and practise it. It should be noted that physical and carnal pleasures should be enjoyed and be satisfied. Dissatisfaction in this aspect will hinder spiritual progress. One should be grateful to the other for the satisfaction they provide each other and move forward in their spiritual journey which should normally be started after their duties towards their children are completed. This happens once the children start earning and start living on their own.

If a husband reaches this far with his only wife then there is no question of a divorce. The couple should exclude divorce as an option in their married life. They should do all in their power to make a success of their marriage. Believe me, your marriage will be a success if you are determined to succeed instead of escaping from it using the divorce option. Divorce is for the incompetent and weak. So i do not worry about it in my life. We have to work at our relationship much more than we do now

May God bless you with a happy marriage.

Answer 2

God put man above all else in the family, it is his place to put his woman and family above himself. I feel his attitude should be one of whats best for the family as a unit, seek advice from the members but ultimately the decision rests with him. That's the attitude I feel God meant for a husband to have. However, there has to be a balance stuck with the people of the family also, otherwise a husband will begin to feel poorly. Ive been married for 24 years, and recently I realized there was a very poor balance....it causes bad tidings....

Answer 3

Why depend on religion? There is no man that can, according to the bible, lead his family into righteousness unless he is perfect and his wife is perfect as well. Honestly, no such thing! Quit trying to live by the bible and just be with your hubby...religion has taken too much control. Does it mean nothing to be a happy couple who doesn't hurt anyone and still not serve a higher being every Sunday with all the other hypocrites?

Answer 4

First by realizing that my wife is God's gift to me. She is willing to submit to my leadership when I am loving her as Christ loves the church. If someone is loving you with a self sacrifice then you can feel comfortable in following the leadership of your husband.

Second, by realizing that leadership is a huge responsibility. If something goes wrong in our relationship then the burden must fall on my shoulders.

Finally, you must lead by example. By demonstrating my love, praying for my family, praying with my wife, taking a strong role in the rasing of our children, and living out Christianity 7 days a week instead of just on sunday.

Answer 5

Lady. God gave us choices not instructions that had to be followed.

If we used the bible as Gods word you would be able to ask any questions.

Answer 6

You are obviously religous so why not seek your advice at your church? To me you sound delusional.

Answer 7

by pray

Answer 8

we'd love to but our wives won't let us.