im australian and a athest (i belive in god but am open to othe things to ) hes lebanise and a strong cathoilc
2006-08-25 22:15:25 · 14 answers · asked by tessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
While you love your man, the family usually comes with the package. Are you getting married to worry about this further? Then have the discussion with your fiancee about religion and raising kids and you'll figure out a compromise then or that it's not meant to be.
In the meantime, about the family, bite your tongue and don't get into arguments with them. Don't even critique them to your man - they are his family despite their faults and you have no place to make comments as you are "not blood". Vice versa on him critiquing your family. Let your man battle with them. Observe carefully how he deals with them, what he says, what he does. Believe in him that he's handling things. What do you do? You stand by him. By the way, an atheist does NOT believe in God, period. So you by definition are NOT an atheist, probably more "spiritually open" or "spiritual".
2006-08-25 22:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Persephone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in God, then maybe you at least have that in common. There are red flags here, depending on how strong the family opinions will affect him and your relationship. If you love each other, then by all means, stay and fight. But realize that your love will possibly under stress, and it also depends on how you both will handle it. If you are not controlling and will allow him to have his beliefs and he will let you have yours, then it might not be too bad. It depends on the respect that you have between the two of you and how the parents will bring into this relationship stress and cause you to fight. Don't jump into a marriage yet.
2006-08-26 05:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I Honestly Don't Think That Would Work Out In The Long Run Religion Wise....But If You Love Him That Much, And He Loves You Fight, And Tell Him To Help Fight With You.
2006-08-26 05:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by iLL_TeK_NeekZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide this one. But if you have strong feelings for him, the message is simple. Fight for what you believe in with every fiber in your being. Live with passion and unconditional love. Inspire others to do the same. Fighting doesn't really mean fighting. Try to make peace and bonding with them. But don't back down for one second. Talk to your partner to see if he is with you on this. It takes two to do this. And if he will not stand, then he may not think you are worth it relative to his family. Then you know what to do. Hint: not stay..
2006-08-26 05:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in love with a guy whose family didn't accept me because I was divorced and had 2 children. I was 31 and he was 35! So, I got out. If I had it to over again, I would at least stay a little while. When you are with his family, you don't have to announce your religious beliefs. And, if they are racist, what can you do anyway?
2006-08-26 05:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these QUESTIONS:
Do you have to stay with his parents ?
Do you love him more or his parents ?
Are you having your future with him or his Parents?
if the answers are positive you have to stay and fight for your rights. But you must be getting full support from your partner..
Because this fight is for you both, nothing could be done alone.
And I am really with ya both. May God bless ya both.
And just pray to the GOD for your success.
2006-08-26 05:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by chocolateboy_4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better walk-away! What you will achieve with stay & fight?
If you are so serious to the point of not departing pleasantly, better convince your parents, fully justifying the cause.
2006-08-26 05:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be no fight...it's between you and him, it's really none of his families business, if he can't put his foot down, I don't know what you can do to change that, but on that side, it's up to him to try to get them to accept you, or at least get them to shut the hell up.
2006-08-26 05:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in god you're not an Atheist. If you don't know what you believe, youre Agnostic. Not Atheist.
If you love him, why in the hell would you walk away?
2006-08-26 05:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay and fight if you love him his family should except you for who you are if there son really loves you.
2006-08-26 05:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋