What can you do for a friend who has lost a partner and won't go to counselling...?

Question

for complex reasons that there is no getting around?

Answer 1

Be the councillor and sit listening - be there as often as is needed

Answer 2

Why do people think that counselling is so great? Their job is mainly only to listen & yes that does help but "Life" will always contain times/events which will hurt you. Sympathetic support & a listening ear from loved/caring ones is as good as you can get from anywhere.
Only time can really heal the pain. It doesn't make us forget but it heals the pain.

Answer 3

my boyfriend committed suicide 3 years ago - i was offered counselling i didn't want to go as felt they would never understand, i put it off and off eventually i went and personally it did not help me i needed to talk to someone who knew my partner my friends and family were the best support i could ever have asked for, if they had forced me to go and not supported my decision i feel that i would have been lost.

If they want to go they will make their own decision in their own time, this is their hour of need just be there you may not be "professionally" trained to handle this but you will do more help then you will ever know by just being there.

Answer 4

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Then the best thing you can do is be there for them ...

They will probably go through stages in their grief;

* Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
* Anger (why is this happening to me?)
* Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
* Depression (I don't care anymore)
* Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

Be ready for them to move in and out of the various ones.

The above is a somewhat breviated version there is more
all over the web.

Good Luck, Stay Strong if you can wont be easy as you will
probably be the 'target' of a lot of the feelings being close to
them.

Go Well.

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Answer 5

people deal with grief in their own ways, if you are a true friend you will be there suppoting whatever for howevr long it takes. They say it takes twice as long as the relationship lasted to get through the day without remembering! So how good a friend are you?

Answer 6

It takes time for the healing process when you have lost somebody,your friend is not ready to move on yet and take that step for counselling.Just be a friend and good listener and eventually your friend will grow stronger and probably decide by them-self to seek professional advice....Good luck.

Answer 7

Be there for them, listen and don't interrupt. In most cases they just need someone to be with, don't push and they will gradually get through the pain, but remember 'just like a deep cut' the scar will always be there.
"Daddy Dave"

Answer 8

ok. this is a hard one. really and through experience, they need time to greive. its normal to want for better, but the they to find a happier person again. you will see the change and then you could suggest options. basically what your doing now is all the support they need at this time. try not to worry too much. its going to hurt. think of it like, when you a cut your finger. going to hurt. soon it will repair, and all that is left is memory of the first time you cut your finger. a scar is harder to remove. x

Answer 9

My freind recently lost his wife to Cancer. He struggles with it everyday but he knows that if he needs me im here. We generally end up talking til mid night about nothing important.
Just make sure your friend knows he/she has somewhere they can go when they they need help. Don't apply any pressure, or tell them how they should be feeling.

Good luck and I hope your friend is ok.

Answer 10

Listen and give her advice to seek a couselor. I don't know if she lost him through death or seperation, but both are grieving processes. - Tell her to go to a grief counselor, or perhaps, get her a book on the subject.

Answer 11

Not much...I had a b/f who needed counselling, he refused. I went instead. Can't make them go. Took me a while to learn that. I tried and tried to manipulate him into going.