I knew that my girlfriend was talking to this girl that she called a "friend". we broke up over it, and she said she would stop talking to her if i took her back, i did, then busted her again for the same girl...so we broke up again, but since we live together I tried to be civil and be her friend anyways. She kept crying and telling me she loved me, and then today i found out that she was planning to get with the other girl a day after we broke up, the SAME girl...why play did she play with my heart, why not just let me go? what did i do to deserve this? i never cheated, and tried to be the best girlfriend i could, so where did i go wrong?
2006-08-25 21:36:47 · 16 answers · asked by Yahooligan85 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
by the way, just found out last night that her and the other girl are a new couple now, and are moving in together, something she told me the week before the rent is due on our two bedroom townhome, something i can't afford at this point.
2006-08-26 17:30:40 · update #1
Some people just cheat and brake promises even if they don't have a reason. Some people don't need a reason. That's how they are and that's how the world works sometimes.
You didn't do anything. Your only mistake was trusting her too much and giving her too many chances, but this is something you will only learn from.
Even though you may be hurt right now, don't see this experience as a curse or anything of that nature, because this will only be added to your life 'CV'. It's nothing wrong, we all have to go through both parts of the world, the negative and the positive one because they're useful and if we don't experience both of them, then we would actually regret it.
2006-08-26 00:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't. She did.
It's obvious she had an obsession for this other girl way before you entered into the picture. Why she played with your heart like she did, I do not know.
But rest assured, you did nothing wrong except trust her, believe in her and love her. Her inability to give that back is HER problem...not yours.
2006-08-25 21:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault, you didn't deserve that sort of treatment, and even you doing your best won't fix her infidelity and insecurity You don't have to be her friend, if you hadn't been lovers you wouldn't want a cheater as a friend so let it go. You are worth better, take time to heal and rebuild your self confidence and then you'll find someone who will treat you with respect.
2006-08-25 21:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate sundae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was big of you to take her back, but are you sure there is more than just talking going on or are you overly possessive? People are allowed to be in relationships and yet have other friends. The fact that she was crying (admitting guilt) tends to agree otherwise, and you gave her another chance. But Confucius say...fool me once, shame on you---fool me twice, shame on me. I suggest you distance yourself from this girl soon, and find yourself another girl who treats you as you deserve. Good luck.
2006-08-26 01:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you went wrong by taking her back.. you still with this girl? you should have moved out a couple of weeks ago when this happened the first time
2006-08-25 23:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, sometimez it just beez that way...keep your head up and move on. the best revenge is to live well.. in other words don't let her see you hurt (or acting like a fool over her) and time will heal..promise.
one day you won't feel like you do right now and you will find someone who will treat you right
2006-08-25 21:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry babe the same happened to me. Be true to yourself and move on. Your ex will figure out what she lost one day, and the games she played will smack her in her face.
2006-08-26 13:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by The Beast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't! it wasn't you it was so her. She was the one that wanted to cheat you didn't drive her to do it. It isn't your fault at all and you need to remember that. If you don't believe me ask her yourself and listen to all the stuttering and the confused look she gets. She knows you didn't do anything wrong ultimately she's the one who makes her own decisions! DAMN FREE WILL!
2006-08-25 22:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by sined 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You trusted her too many times because you wanted it to work out. It's not a crime and you will learn from this so next time you won't be so easily hurt.
2006-08-25 21:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Dude 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now she using you for shelter (roof over head) because the other girl won't or can't take her in.
2006-08-25 21:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ironball 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋