Hypothetically, if I have a child with a man who makes good money but we don't get married and I don't have a serious job while we are together, and then we break up... can he have sole custody because of the money he makes where I had not had a job (except for raising the baby)? And I am a fit mother except for not making nearly as much?
2006-08-25 21:30:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We live in Arizona.
2006-08-25 21:39:24 · update #1
I don't think a judge makes his decision based soley on how much the parents make. Traditionally, judges would give custodial custody to the mother and generous visitation to the father. The father would then have to pay child support to you and it will be based on his income. The more he makes....the more you get.
A new trend emerging is....judges see both parents as equally fit to raise the child and he starts in his head with the notion of a 50/50 split between the parents. The judge then considers a number of factor to deetermine whether he should vary the 50/50 split. He then considers work schedules and who would be more available to raise the child, shift work, working out of town, a lot of traveling. He also looks at who could provide a better home.
All these things come into play when the judge decides what is in the best interest of the child.
Good luck.
2006-08-25 23:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court awards custody to the parent best able to provide a good home for the child. The job isn't all that is considered, but it IS a factor. Are you seriously hoping a court will give you custody? Hypothetically, you are an able bodied adult, who doesn't work, hasn't worked, and gets pregnant while shacked up with with a guy who has a good job. I assume also, that you aren't a MD, a registered nurse, or an engineer. Sooo, you tell the the judge that YOU will provide the baby a better home. That you plan to sit home for 18 years, and raise the child. Or that you are going to get some job, some time; so the daddy should provide everything you both need, or the state should. Good luck, hypothetically.
2006-08-26 01:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Custody of a child is not decided on how much a parent makes. Mother is always first choice in courts unless it can be proved the mother is not fit.
Money is figure out by all incomes. The one that makes the most has to be a bigger portion towards child support. Standard of living is figured for the child not the mother or the father. In most cases the father gets hit with most of the cost and the least of the say in the raising of the child.
If you get custody of the child you will be receiving enough money to raise the child and live. You wont be having as much money coming into the house as now. Reason father has to live to with some of the money he makes. Depending how the courts decide but the father is going to be put into financial ruins at first.
2006-08-25 21:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they dont usually base custody on finances.. thats where child support comes in.. they base it on many things, but in most states its extremely hard for men to get custody of their children unless they can prove beyond a doubt that the mother is unfit, most judges give custody to the mothers.. so as long as ur a good mother and u can provide a stable home, even if its living with family as long as u have the means to keep a roof over their head, clothes, food, all the necessities.. they 90% of the time give the children to the mother.. Think of it this way, most men tend to make more money then the mothers, yet most women have custody of the children.. so just cause he makes more money doesnt necessarily mean he will win custody..
2006-08-25 21:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to give you a idea since you are asking a hypothetical question. Why don't you try Shared parenting agreement between the two parents? Hired an parenting coordinator to setup what is truly best for the kids. If your relationship is not working is the relationship to your children change? Dose your spouse's relationship to the kids change? The answer is no because its not the same type of love. If you and your spouse are good parents its best for the kids to have both parents. Stop treating kids as pawns they will do far better being with two parents that love them and support them.
2006-08-26 02:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be unfair but in most situations I've seen the child usually goes to the one who is more able to provide for the child financially. So my advice to you would be if you are planning to leave make sure you establish some source of income or reliable way to take care of your child before you leave. Because even though you may be the person that cares for the child while he works and everything. He could also pay a daycare or some other source to take care of the child while he works, since he does have income. Be careful.
2006-08-25 21:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by LaJoya S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe money will ever change the degree of your parenting style. If you are a loving, mature person that can create a stable environment, home and one that a child can thrive in .. then you should raise the child and take his money to do that..
Hugs Mel
2006-08-25 21:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get your parents or a family member involved to help. I went through this with my nephew and we won custody.
2006-08-25 21:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the custody goes to the parent who is the smartest!
2006-08-25 21:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what state you are in.
2006-08-25 21:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by steelerguy92868 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋