My best friend and I are, naturally, quite close to one another, sharing secrets, confiding in the other, etc.
Recently, he admiited to me that he had been going "out of control" with regards to his sexual urges, having to look at porn, masturbating, letting it interfere with himself etc.
He feels terrible for it, he admits, and he's tried to stop, but always comes back to his habits after sometime.
He's asked me to help him by giving him advise or suggestions on how to take control over himself.
I myself, unfortunately, can't help him, as I've barely had any "experience" at all (this is coming from someone who thought that sex was kissing until a few months ago, and I'm 16).
At any rate, I would really like to help him, but to put it simply, I have neither the expertise nor the ability to aid him, and I'm hoping others might.
Thanks for your help, it's greatly appreciated.
2006-08-25 20:40:32 · 4 answers · asked by Link 5 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You and your friend need to understand that at your age your body is pumping a lot of testosterone into your bodies and that is going to make you aroused (horny) all the time. One way to control this is to masturbate and that is perfectly normal and okay. You need to advise your friend to give up the porn. Porn is not honest and gives a false impression of what sex is like. Men are genetically developed to respond to visual stimulus and that is why porn appeals to men more than women. Now how to help control masturbation. First, don't try to stop totally. It is okay to masturbate and you may feel the need 2 or 3 times a day. The rest of the time become more physically active. Go out for sports, run, and exert yourself. If you feel yourself becoming aroused that is okay you don't need to satisfy your urges evertime. Take a quick shower, wash your face with some cold water. If you are watching tv and get an erection get up and walk around a bit, do something different for a minute. You will find that as you get older you will develop more control over your sexual desires. Good luck. Remember, masturbation is okay and normal, exert a lot of energy in physical activities, and divert your attention from sex.
2006-08-26 03:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Geo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I can think of for him to control himself is to simply stop doing those things. It will be hard for him to just stop that way, so he needs to take up another hobby. Otherwise, he will not be able to get his mind off of porn and stuff when he's just sitting around thinking about nothing. Isn't there something you two could do together? Maybe a project you two could work on or something like that? Surely there's something he could find that's interesting, and you might even be able to be with him to help him be motivated to do that by hanging out with him and helping him with the substitute hobby. I think that would be the best thing. Another thing that will help him is if he starts doing something that will make him too tired to masturbate so much. Working out might help. Good luck!
2006-08-25 21:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just like any other addiction he needs to call around for some sord of AAA or help me stop jacking off group
2006-08-25 20:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Montee P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to know how to stop
2006-08-26 01:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by smousa2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋