Can you name some other drawbacks to haveing sex before marriage other than religious ones?

Question

and other than dieses and children.

Answer 1

I think when people rush into having sex, they sometimes miss the step of really getting to know eachother and focus on the sex.

Later they get married and as the sex fascination ebbs they find they have nothing in common and are not maybe the match they thought they should be in the first place.

Answer 2

It might hurt to see the other person with someone else later on - for posessive guys.

It will emotionally hurt most girls when the guy walks away after he has had what he wanted(breaks the relationship). A girl typically opens up only for the guy she loves. When he leaves she'll feel terribly used and will take some time getting over. But a scar is a scar and scars in girls heart will never erase. Your attitude may change, you may start thinking differently may be even respond differently after a breakup. but the scar still remains. So why risk it.

Answer 3

Angry fathers with guns
Angry mothers with frying pans
Angry girl/boy friend that hurts you badly

If AIDS and STDs aren't enough
if the possibility of a pregnancy isn't scary enough

Then consider the idea of "growing up" and recognizing that there is more to life than "sex, drugs and rock and roll" -to quote an old mantra.

As Nona used to say....
with age, the desire for sex ...is still there....but fades
with age, the desire for wealth ...is still there ...but fades
but the apprecation of good food and wine stays til you die

OR

in any healthy relationship....if there is no serious problems....sex and money should take about 10% of the couple's time and concern
but if the relationship is unhealthy.....concern over sex and money can take up 90% of their attention

sex and money......especially sex....are only part of a good, healthy, mature relationship

Answer 4

There is only one first time. The anticipation and excitement are overwhelming and worth the wait.

Also, Imagine your heart as a piece of paper that you tear a little away for each person you have sex with. If this happens a lot, there will not be much left over for your spouse. What better gift to give your other half than your ENTIRE HEART not just what's left over.

Answer 5

Think about ruining the traditional values of sex between a man and a woman.
I mean if we were all to have sex without nuptials, we may as well throw marriage as we know out the window. Why would a guy want to marry, if he can get IT free, without any obligation on his part!

Answer 6

Sex should not be a question as to whether you're married or not.
It's a question of love.

If you truly, irrevocably love someone..... if your only desire is to be close to them, to always want to be with them. If you love them for who they are, what they say, how they make you feel, and you both feel that sex would bring you two closer..... that should be reason enough to condone sex.

If you're truly in love with someone, then the sex will ALWAYS be good. I mean, a lot of people say "Yah yah, sex before marriage equals bordeom afterwards," but the truth is that if you get BORED with having sex with someone, it's obviously not good sex, and neither of the partners are doing anything to make it better.

Sex isn't just a PHYSICAL experience, it's an emotional one... and that's why sex before marriage isn't advocated... especially if you're a teenager.

I mean, the whole idea of sex and romance has been completely convoluted over the millenia. If two people decide that they want to spend the rest of their lives with each other, it was originally because they loved each other.

It's the same thing with sex. The idea of waiting until marriage comes from the fact that sexual intercourse quite possibly the most intimate kind of activity you can do with someone else.

Because of the media, more teens are facing sex at younger and younger ages. Hormones, confusion, and peer pressure are driving droves of young people into sex... without any kind of knowledge about it beforehand.

Let me ask you all honestly, would you ever ask your mother what way to best pleasure your lover? If you have a boyfriend, would you ever your father about the best way to give oral sex?
Of course not.

It's a lack of information, the bombardment of it on TV, and some insane fanatics all promoting abstinence that are making sex such a painful experience for a lot of people.

Anyways, the only drawbacks come from lack of love and trust in someone. There's been a promotion of the physical properties of sex for centuries, but what about the emotional aspects of it?

I guess that's a major drawback to sex... the fact that people may be having sex with each other, and not truly be in love, or not truly be emotionally prepared to HAVE sex with that person, or with anyone.

A lot of people are uncomfortable with their bodies, and that helps facilitate the lack of trust in others... the fear of being judged.

I guess that's one way to say that you shouldn't have sex with someone until you decide to spend the rest of your lives with them. But then again, this whole point is BUNK when you realize that apparently, a lot of people AREN'T really all that in love when they get married.....

The divorce rate in this country is almost 50%..... half of all marriages are ending in divorce, most of which within 2 years... some people blame pre-marital sex.... but the truth is that almost ALL industrialized nations suffer from high divorce rates... with the only exception being Spain.

I'm not going to pretend to know the true answers, but I can say this : If you have sex with someone, you're sharing yourself, ALL of yourself with that person. If you ever leave that person, it's going to put behind all the times you ever spent with that person.

I don't think about my ex-girlfriends when I'm with my girlfriend, but it always hurts to think about the things with other people that will never come to be.

But then again, maybe marriage has little or nothing to do with love.... however, love should have a lot more to do with sex than it seems to have nowadays >: (

Answer 7

The more physically intimate you get with somebody, the harder it is to break it off with that person if he/she turns out to be wrong for you. No matter what you do, having sex with somebody forms a connection between you and that person that's somewhat permanent, and it can cause emotional confusion later in life when you actually do find your soulmate. Plus, having sex with multiple partners over the course of your life gives you people against whom to compare your future spouse, and that's generally not a good thing -- better to mesh yourself sexually with just one person so that you're more satisfied (having nobody else's "performance" against which to compare).

Answer 8

Emotional attachment to that one person. You may 'fall in love' with her and want more but she doesn't see the same. That's heartache.

Sex before marriage can also second value of it. You tend to just do it for pleasure and psychologically, you do not value the sanctity of sex in a marriage.

Answer 9

I tried to do that to keep it "special", but it's just unrealistic. Other then that, there are none. Besides, if you wind up holding out for marriage, you have a VERY low chance of actually finding another virgin to marry - so who are you "saving yourself" for anyway? The one other virgin in the whole town?

Just be sure to use your trojans....

Answer 10

Actually, I think you should. If you are in love, and you have had tests that show you are both "disease free", and birth control is practiced, I think it will either solidify your commitment, or it will "open a door" (lack of a better phrase), that it wasn't meant to be.

As a PS - I mean if you are anticipating being married - not just going steady. This is college-level age.