we have been together for 3 yrs
we live together and are not cheating on each-other
2006-08-25 19:37:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its a great thing. If more people could do what you do
1) Less unexpected pregnancies
2) Less abortions
3) Less std's
4) Less HIV AIDS
5) Less depression among young women
6) More goal oriented lifestyle
7) Pop culture would change for the better.
18 months is impressive. Just think there are sad girls out there who say the same thing, except its with a boy they have been with for 2 weeks, and they think not having sex for the weekend will prove love...
IM 25 and have been with my soon to be wife for 7 years, and we waited about a year and a half before we were active.
2006-08-25 19:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by kool_rock_ski_stickem 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fact; the majority of society doesn't even know what love really is. Further, it is cruel to punish your mate like that to PROVE love??? Let's get real here... Love is or isn't part of the relationship. And i can tell you, even WITH love, cut the sex out and the other WILL go get it else where... I know, i love my wife but she cut me off over 9 years ago due to her own personal problems. After deep resentment set in and I started becoming cold and indifferent to her, she finally had to make a choice. I want sex and she can't give it to me, so she had to face and accept the fact that I WILL and DO get it elsewhere... Of course I am careful as to my playmates and somewhat picky, but passion IS required, or you can just hit the door, because if it's you cutting off the other, they are getting it elsewhere... How do you think I can still tolerate my wife after over 9 years?
After re-reading your question, it does seem to me that you are the one doing the testing... Don't be such a fool, He resents you, and only tolerates you, and most probably feels sorry for you is why he's still hanging around, and you can be sure his friends will despise him for not being a man and setting you strait, which will only compound the problem. How can you be so cruel to TEST someone like that? My wife isn't TESTING me, She's got the problem, and we both had to decide on the issue, because I AM a man and have my needs. She can't, and won't seek professional help, and it doesn't matter any more anyway because now the passion is dead and buried and rotted and turned to dust! The other day when she asked me if I loved her and I said "Yes, i love you, like a very good friend" she wanted to try manipulating me with pretended hurt feelings, but I set that crap straight immediately! And guess what? She's still hanging around... No need to kick her butt out now, It's an arrangement of convience, especially since she FINALLY got a job and is helping with the expenses... At least before she did ALL the chores, to help make up for the situation because she knows she's NOT fulfilling the part of a wife! If your man... never mind;
you gotta LOT to learn little girl.
2006-08-26 04:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by snafu22bohica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the physical part of the relationship is just as important as the mental part. Being "in love" as it may, consists of many diverse interactions between a male and female. You are not cheating on the other person (this is known). The other person "says" they are not cheating, but you are not with them 24/7. Humans have urges, humans have needs, humans are tempted. Flesh is for the taking. He(or she) who does not partake in the flesh, shall be tempted to take the flesh of another when presented in common form. Have a good day.... and get your partner, bottle of baby oil, some candles, a 6 pack of Viagra, and enjoy each others company for heavens sake !
2006-08-26 02:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Halo on the Half Shell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll be frustrated to learn that your partner finds the fulfillment elsewher beside you. Have experienced this, where a girl cheated on her boy only to send to him a letter of invitation to her wedding with another man. This guy thought he was giving her wife- to -be, time thinking he was pleasing her or otherwise she would take him as a humble character who does not hurriedly jump over things, little did he know the latter would happen. Just be a man if you know that the partner is really yours,jump to bed and do the necessary. Otherwise you'll rave mad to discover that the catch is out of hands.
2006-08-26 03:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by petros 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a strange idea, not scientific .. There are other means to test love. Contrary full satisfaction of the two parties in sex can mean love.
2006-08-26 02:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
18 months is rather long. but depends on your needs. if you both dont feel the need to do it, that's find.
2006-08-26 03:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Russ Bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been with the same guy for 4 yeARs and iv done the same thing im glad im not the only one you did the right thing
2006-08-26 02:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by juelz.m 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, its a little strange.
2006-08-26 02:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no it is not weird at all except i bet you two are pretty sexually frustrated by now.
2006-08-26 02:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by afrprince77 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
nope
2006-08-26 02:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Shan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋